How good parents really are nowadays?

[gavroche]

By that I mean : do parents really prepare their children for adulthood? When I see my own children with their own children, I often ask myself that question. My grandchildren have a the materialistic things they can wish for and all the love parents can give them but when it comes to practical things in every day life, their lack serious skills .
- they can't cook.
- they don't know how to look after their things.
- they can't do simple things like cleaning their shoes.
- they expect everything to be done for them.
I love them dearly but I wish they were taught how to stand on their own feet from an early age and not rely on parents to do it all for them. I was, but then it was a different era.

 

[User482]

My kids are busy, sweeping generalisations.

 

[blazed]

Perhaps you never raised your own children properly, if they are failing to raise your grandchildren properly?

The whole 'it wasn't like this in my day' thing is the biggest load of rubbish. Every generation repeats that line, when you were a child I'm sure your grandparents thought the same thing about your upbringing. It was always better in the old days, kids have it so easy these days...yawn.

 

[snorri]

Errrr.... Is it ok to "Like" a post by blazed?

 

[summerdays]

It's hard being a parent probably in any generation, the experiences are not directly comparable. I'm glad that my youngest is a teen now, whereas my nieces and nephews are younger and their parents have even more pressure than I had to give your child their own phone for example.

At some point they leave home and have to stand on their own two feet, my first went off to Uni able to cook a reasonably wide range of food, the second despite all my trying to teach them left unable to cook, and they haven't starved, though there are frequent phone calls or texts about how do you tell if a potato has gone off etc that usually has us in stitches.

Even at uni I've noticed a difference in how much parents are still parenting, some buy their children a house or cover every bill, and at the other extreme some give absolutely no help (financial or advice) to their child. I've worked on the principle I'm not going to do everything for them, that they need to be becoming more independent, though I was asked for a loan (in addition to what we normally give), until the summer to cover a shortfall, which I was happy to agree to, as previous loans have been repaid.

Im hoping I'm going to end up with 3 independent happy children, though they have mentioned coming back to live here after Uni....

 

[EltonFrog]

Errrr.... Is it ok to "Like" a post by blazed?

It's not even ok to acknowledge its existence.

Oh dang!

 

[Fnaar]

I've got one at university, one off travelling the world (she worked and saved for it) and another still at school. They're not perfect, I'm not perfect, but I love them and they love me... that'll do me

 

[vernon]

"The children now love luxury; they have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Children are now tyrants, not the servants of their households. They no longer rise when elders enter the room. They contradict their parents, chatter before company, gobble up dainties at the table, cross their legs, and tyrannise their teachers."

Socrates 469-399 BC

You must be very old @gavroche to predate the era of the behaviour that you decry.

 

[Levo-Lon]

What @vernon said..

 

[Crackle]

The Piranha said it all.

 

[gavroche]

Ok, I give up. I see that you all have perfect children and grandchildren and no worries for their future.

 

[Crackle]

My kids are busy, sweeping generalisations.

Better than chimneys. That's modernity for you.

 

[summerdays]

Ok, I give up. I see that you all have perfect children and grandchildren and no worries for their future.

No, they aren't perfect by any means (for a start none of them ride a bike frequently so I've failed) and I'm sure I will disagree with some of the things they will do in the future, but it's their lives, I can give advice but it's up to them as to whether they take that advice.

 

[Markymark]

My kids are practically perfect in every way*



Except when they're acting like little sh1ts

 

[John the Monkey]

Errrr.... Is it ok to "Like" a post by blazed?