I don't tend to read such books or watch such videos. I end up feeling jealous esp if it's a couple involved
I get out on the bike perhaps twice a week and these YouTubers who post emotional videos about a bad day in the saddle get my goat. They Don know what a bad day looks like if it bit them up the backside!
Try having a bad day on the way to work, at work, or a difficult relationship or a disabled child or a chronic illness to contend with...
Sorry rant over!
There certainly is an issue with videos and the written word tending towards exaggeration but I posted that video because it's quite down to earth, quite real.
I find the trick with such things is to find and focus on the people that "speak" to us, the ones that reflect some part of us, whether real or aspirational.
As for your rant, the people who do these videos are normal people. Just like you. Just like me. They've had bad days at work, bad relationships and sick relatives too.
One of the greatest (in my opinion) bike touring video makers was carrying frightening demons along with him. Another well known YouTuber has admitted that he struggles with Mental Health issues too.
I've always found that donning my "touring head" and going for a ride, even if only for a short while) is a great way of getting perspective and giving myself a break from daily, grinding pressures. *
An hour, a day, a weekend, whatever, I think a big part of its value was something that I did for myself (as opposed to something just happening). I might be 5kms from my front door but in my mind I could be anywhere.
When I couldn't ride a read of a good journal on CrazyGuyOnABike was part inspiration, part goal setting and always educational.
* Sometimes I packed up a pannier for my commute and on the way home stopped along a canal to brew up some coffee and read a book. A half hour of time but half a world of a journey.
It's not been my experience that just because someone, somewhere is doing something that I want to do that that somehow means my chance of doing it is less. In fact, it's usually the opposite.