How should I tell my parents and the in-laws?

[Rob3rt]

You need to tell us how old you two are and how long the relationship has been there. Can't really sort some good advice unless we know background.

Me and the missus was easy, we had been married over 4 years..easy, we are preggers.

IF you aren't married, in a recent relationship, then is a fair bit more careful.. Know what we mean. Duno.you need to explain your situation.

Me was very easy, met by lots of cheers, but it was a traditional marriage. Thank god !!!!

Shotgun Wedding?

 

[screenman]

Mine was not what you cal a traditional marriage, but it is a brilliant one.

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[Black Sheep]

You need to tell us how old you two are and how long the relationship has been there. Can't really sort some good advice unless we know background.

Me and the missus was easy, we had been married over 4 years..easy, we are preggers.

IF you aren't married, in a recent relationship, then is a fair bit more careful.. Know what we mean. Duno.you need to explain your situation.

Me was very easy, met by lots of cheers, but it was a traditional marriage. Thank god !!!!

I'm 29 and Mrs Black Sheep is 25, we married in 2009 with a fairly traditional ceremony so we've been married 3 and a half years now (be four years before the baby arrives)
My mother-in-laws response was to ask if we were joking, call my father-in-law ''grandad'' and cry before telling me I need to finish our house renovation and find a job (fair enough, I expected that one)

we're not telling anyone else until scans

 

[Linford]

No need to keep it a secret, Either way, they will find out, and if you didn't want them to know if there was a problem, then there is something a bit wrong somewhere.

Look at it from their point of view...their children are expecting their own, what is there to not like about that !

 

[Fnaar]

Sit them down, stand in front of the fireplace, bend your legs, expand your braces, cough lightly and say (in a posh accent) "I hev en ennouncement. My good lady wife and I have been engaging in procreationally-purposed coitus, and the resultant state of affairs arising from this union of man and woman is the fertilisation and development, within her uterus, of a foetus, aka an embryo"

 

[BrumJim]

for the 1st we told wifeys mum and dad at his bedside while he was recovering from chemotherapy when wifey was 8 weeks, he died the next day from a massive stroke. we told my mum and dad a week later at his funeral and swore all to secrecy till scans.

2nd pregnancy we told them at 12 weeks but we lost G at 25 weeks
3rd to 10th all miscarried between 16-18 weeks and we didn't tell anybody ( wifey is factor V leidon and we were guinea pigs for a drug treatment devised by Prof Reagan at St Marys Paddington.
for youngest we told family after 25 weeks.

we just said wifeys pregnant all times.

oh and if anybody is going through the hell we did between 2nd and 10th then PM if you need to talk I know what you are going through and talking to somebody who has been there really helps.

oh and BTW congrats on the pregnancy .

Sh*t!

 

[twentysix by twentyfive]

Congrats to you both. Big changes are a coming

 

[MattHB]

Congrats to you both. Big changes are a coming

Good ones though

 

[twentysix by twentyfive]

Good ones though

Absolutely

 

[PK99]

If you hadn't found out from the pregnancy and alcohol thread Mrs Black Sheep is about 3 weeks pregnant, so very early stages and many things can, unfortunately, go wrong.

However, if something does go wrong then she'll most likely talk to her mother for moral support so we figure they might as well know that she is pregnant so we're off tonight to tell them.

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Probably too late but FWIW: Don't tell them.

why? If something goes wrong....

position 1 : Don't' tell. Something goes wrong. Mum is there as a shoulder to cry on.

position 2: Do tell them. Mum get all excited planning the future grand kid. Something goes wrong. Mum share the loss and needs support herself

 

[summerdays]

If anyone decides to go down the route of not telling them ... then it is worth telling them at some point - my sister after suffering a few miscarriages didn't want to tell any of the family that she was pregnant again, (and I understood that). However by the time she was 30 weeks and still hadn't announced anything we didn't know whether to say anything or not

 

[Black Sheep]

Probably too late but FWIW: Don't tell them.

why? If something goes wrong....

position 1 : Don't' tell. Something goes wrong. Mum is there as a shoulder to cry on.

position 2: Do tell them. Mum get all excited planning the future grand kid. Something goes wrong. Mum share the loss and needs support herself

As I said, we've chosen to tell Mrs Black Sheep's parents as Mum would be turned to as support, we were told by her mother not to buy anything for the baby until a fair bit further on after various scans etc. It's all hush hush at the moment.
(If I can aquire anything that's being offered via freecycle I'll do so and hide it away as, if we can't cope with it being in the house it cost me nothing so can be handed on to someone else who needs it, or it can sit in the loft until we need it)

I'm not telling my mum as she'll try and organise me or say it's too soon etc so she'll have to wait until we decide to tell friends and family.

 

[simon.r]

I remember feeling embarrassed when we told my parents in law - I couldn't get the thought out of my mind that there was no doubt that I'd had sex with their daughter!

This despite the fact that I'd been married to their daughter for 2 years and living with her for 2 years before that. Strange

 

[GetAGrip]

Best put earplugs in... to absorb the 140 dB "Eeeeeeeeeeeh!!!"s as the hoard pile towards you, and get padding to protect you from the tightest mass hugs you'll ever get in your life!

Aaaah, would've loved that sort of response but alas, was not to be

 

[GetAGrip]

Congratulations to you both!