Letter to my father.

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StuAff

Silencing his legs regularly
Location
Portsmouth
Best of luck Gromit, hope writing that helped. I hate my own father (who made the world a better place by leaving it twenty years ago this year) for what he did to my mother and myself (nothing like as bad as happened to your family, but bad enough), so I have a little understanding of how you feel. He poisoned my life in many respects. I don't think I've achieved anything much in life, I doubt I ever will, but I'm not him. His 'legacy' is nothing. And I won't die a deluded fool in a pub like he did.
 

Bengarbage

Active Member
Location
Rochester
brave, well done.
 

colly

Re member eR
Location
Leeds
Quite a read Gromit, and moving to say the least.
I hope, like others, you can move on and be at peace with the rest of your family. It makes me thankful I come from a family where love and kindness were shown in abundance. I have absolutely no concept of how things must have been for you.
I wish you well.
 

The Brewer

Shed Dweller
Location
Wrexham
I had to re-read most of that as the tears streamed too much.

Thanks for posting and I wish you some sort of peace by doing so....there doesn't seem to be an apt smilie
 
All the very best you, Gromit. I lost my mum this year too mate and yet coupled with the abuse you suffered under the hands of your father, it must have made her loss exceptionally painful for you.

I sincerely hope you can move on and if I am right in thinking you have your own children, the best thing you can do is to treat them as the loving parent you are. That way, you've risen above him and had the last laugh.

All the best mate.
 

Matthew_T

"Young and Ex-whippet"
Many things have happened in my short life that I am not proud of. No matter how open I become to someone, I will never tell certain things.

I have a tendancy to tell strangers or people I have known for little time personal things that have happened to me, however I am very closed up with what has actually influenced my life and has led me to become the person I am now. I am not proud of what I have done and will happily accept the consequences when my time comes but at this age, I can see that what I did was wrong.
As a result, I always reflect on my actions even though most of the time they are wrong. And I have built a superb personality and ability to evaluate, assess, and understand the true meaning of what people say and do.

I now have a very complex personality and to go into detail about it just wouldnt cut things. I have so much going on with myself that it isnt possible to put it in a few lines. You are talking hundreds of pages of a book here.
 

PaulB

Legendary Member
Location
Colne
I can't understand why anyone would want that made public. Once the content became clear, I stopped reading it as it must take a peculiar mind set to want to know that sort of stuff. Life's too short to wallow in that pity-party.
 

Arch

Married to Night Train
Location
Salford, UK
I can't understand why anyone would want that made public. Once the content became clear, I stopped reading it as it must take a peculiar mind set to want to know that sort of stuff. Life's too short to wallow in that pity-party.

So why not just leave it and say nothing? No, you have to prove how clever you are.

People are different. Some of you think football matters, for example.
 

Andy_R

Hard of hearing..I said Herd of Herring..oh FFS..
Location
County Durham
I can't understand why anyone would want that made public. Once the content became clear, I stopped reading it as it must take a peculiar mind set to want to know that sort of stuff. Life's too short to wallow in that pity-party.
It's obviously never happened to you, so you'll never be able to understand Gromit's motives for posting. If you're never going to understand it, respect her feelings and, as Arch says, don't comment.:headshake:
 

Moodyman

Legendary Member
It's obviously never happened to you, so you'll never be able to understand Gromit's motives for posting. If you're never going to understand it, respect her feelings and, as Arch says, don't comment.:headshake:

Indeed.

Had me in tears Gromit. May this be the start of the healing process for you.
 

bicyclos

Part time Anorak
Location
West Yorkshire
Goodness, I was not expecting anything like that. My deepest sympathy and sadness for what the three of you have had to go through especially your dear mum. What brave, courageous and loving people the three of you have been full of worth and integrity. I hope these horrible wounds heal quickly so you can head towards building a strong loving family of your own without the horrendous tormented past you have all had to endure.

Take care
 

jonny jeez

Legendary Member
Happy 2013 Grommit.

One question...

Do you have his new wife's email address?, actually perhaps that's a bad move (although, doubtless one day she'll find it helpful to know someone who can share the horror that she will likely face), the positive thing is that you can...and have moved on. Really pleased for you.
 
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