Losing my patience with new workmate..........

[Illaveago]

Years ago I worked in a car bodyshop where one person could be as awkward as anything. He was the only panelbeater amongst us, all the rest could do both. Nobody liked to paint any of his jobs as his filler work, which he insisted on doing required doing all over again. He seemed to gather all of the tools in the workshop around him and if you needed a tool, a mig welder for example he would say that he was using it , put down what he was doing and do some welding. In the winter when you are trying to keep the workshop warm, he would open the roller door right up to the roof before going to bring the car in, which could have been parked at the back behind several cars. I'm glad I left there and went to work for a place which was more fun and we all got along together.

 

[lutonloony]

Respond to all questions with "do you want fries with that?"

 

[summerdays]

The lad sounds like my daughter.... asks so many questions, and finds it hard to make decisions without seeking multiple reassurances! And boy she can be irritating when in that mode.... but she is anxious to please and isn't trying to annoy us. As a child she was good at extracting information from people because she would ask all those questions you shouldn't!

 

[wheresthetorch]

Maybe get some inspirational responses from here: https://www.cyclechat.net/threads/answer-a-question-with-a-question.96461/

 

[wheresthetorch]

[QUOTE 4569605, member: 45"]When he asks you a question, always answer the one he asked 2 hours ago.[/QUOTE]


View: https://youtu.be/y0C59pI_ypQ

 

[Racing roadkill]

Is he Autistic, or does he have Asperger's? The first time I encountered someone with Asperger's I found it a bit odd.

 

[Electric_Andy]

My advice is get it sorted ASAP. The quicker you address it, the easier it will be.

In my case, we had an office junior lad who kept calling me pet names (!) thinking it was funny, so I had to say to him 3 times that it needs to stop or he will get a disciplinary. He became a big problem for everyone, not necessarily through asking constant questions (as in your case) but more due to general annoying stuff. Things like answering questions that weren't directed at him, breathing over everyone with his foul breath, no sense of personal space, wiping his nose with his hand and then leaning over someone and touching their monitor. It sounds so funny now but it wasn't at the time

Eventually he left before anything was done about it, but the point is that this type of thing is not really a dismiss-able offence in itself. So you'll need to find a way to change his behaviour and make sure he knows why.

 

[keithmac]

I have a colleague, that when you tell him to do something, he goes round window shopping for opinions. Now, I'm quite senior to him, and we get on, he is lots older, very old fashioned, but if I say 'do it', it's on my head (financial) and I've checked everything. Nope, he asks others. He has done it to other folk. Unfortunately for him, the patience for this behaviour is getting very thin these days (public sector) as most of us aren't from that background.

We also have support departments that say, 'that's not in our job description' - WTF. Some right crazy shoot goes on in Universities...

We had a lad at work who did the same thing, you'd give him a job to do and if he didn't like it he'd ask someone else!. Needless to say he didn't last long.

Another time I spent 6 months following another bloke round repairing his mistakes as well as clearing my own jobs.

If he can do the job then putting up with a bit of chatting isn't the worste thing in the world, if he can't do the job either get rid!.

 

[SWSteve]

Based on previous postings about work, I would recommend not coming across as too friendly, otherwise it'll end in a workplace 3 way

 

[Dayvo]

Instead, I will subtly ask them if they ever shut up?? Unfortunately that doesn't work often.

That sounds familiar!

 

[Dayvo]

I am going to talk about "personal space" first thing in the morning.

What, after spending the night with him!?

 

[Mad Doug Biker]

That sounds familiar!

Yeah yeah!

If someone has a problem, fairynuff, but if they are just being annoying, then that is different.

 

[Dayvo]

Yeah yeah!

If someone has a problem, fairynuff, but if they are just being annoying, then that is different.

I was only jesting!

 

[Mad Doug Biker]

I was only jesting!

Were you? Have you had a Hamster?? What are they like??....

 

[stephec]

[QUOTE 4570301, member: 45"]I can catch a monkey.[/QUOTE]
Don't spank it.