Loss of femininity

[rich p]

Ahem. I assume she was over 16?

Perhaps your male colleagues needed to grow up a bit?

I still go out with the lads and they're in their late 50s.

 

[srw]

I still go out with the lads and they're in their late 50s.

In the absence of claudine I suppose I'll have to point out myself that a bunch of greying, balding 50-something men calling each other "lads" is rather different from a man calling a female colleague a "girl" in the same post in which he acknowledges that she's suffered unwanted attention from her male colleagues.

(Stands back and waits for "sense of humour failure" posts).

 

[threebikesmcginty]

greying, balding 50-something men

You've met rich then.

 

[srw]

You've met rich then.

Yup. At 7:30 in the morning on the top of Ditchling Beacon. Fortunately it was a fine clear day, so I had something to make me feel better.

 

[numbnuts]

This is like an interviewer talking to a man in a kilt
interviewer – so your not wearing a kilt to dress like a woman
kilt wearer – if I wanted to dress like a woman I'd put jeans on

 

[Fab Foodie]

Mrs FF likes to dress smart for the office, sometimes that's trousers, sometimes a smart skirt (I'm so glad pencil skirts are back in) or a dress of various sometime figure hugging shapes. Does she look feminine?
Well combined with stocking/hold-ups and stilletos, it works for me.... Jeez I'm a lucky guy ... but then so are the guys in her office, she's just upset that after all that effort she goes to, she doesn't get any lewd remarks

 

[gbb]

In the absence of claudine I suppose I'll have to point out myself that a bunch of greying, balding 50-something men calling each other "lads" is rather different from a man calling a female colleague a "girl" in the same post in which he acknowledges that she's suffered unwanted attention from her male colleagues.

(Stands back and waits for "sense of humour failure" posts).

Oh, its not meant in any kind of way to be sexist . Ive worked in office environments enough to know that 'girls' love to be called girls, whether they're 18, 30, 40 or 60. Ive always done so, never ever had a hint of a bad response.
It's more informal. Walk into an office full of women. 'Morning girls' with a smile on your face.
Women do the same...'morning boys'...never seen any male respond badly to that either.


If it's done with a smile and a cheery disposition, they always respond well.

 

[Moodyman]

Oh, its not meant in any kind of way to be sexist . Ive worked in office environments enough to know that 'girls' love to be called girls, whether they're 18, 30, 40 or 60. Ive always done so, never ever had a hint of a bad response.
It's more informal. Walk into an office full of women. 'Morning girls' with a smile on your face.
Women do the same...'morning boys'...never seen any male respond badly to that either.


If it's done with a smile and a cheery disposition, they always respond well.

I think delivery style is key.

 

[Red Light]

According to my daughters you get a lot more unwelcome attention if you wear a skirt rather than trousers at work. Unfortunately there are still a lot of unreformed men out there that women have to deal with.

 

[GrumpyGregry]

So long as people do their jobs properly and conduct themselves professionally I don't really care that much how they dress at work any more. Ten years ago I did but not these days.

I do have a hang-up about people coming to meetings barefoot, or indeed taking their shoes (and socks off) during meetings. One of the minor annoyances of working in the charidee sector with a bunch of Generation Y-ers and the occassional Gen Z intern.

 

[keyser soze]

So long as people do their jobs properly and conduct themselves professionally I don't really care that much how they dress at work any more. Ten years ago I did but not these days.

I do have a hang-up about people coming to meetings barefoot, or indeed taking their shoes (and socks off) during meetings. One of the minor annoyances of working in the charidee sector with a bunch of Generation Y-ers and the occassional Gen Z intern.

Shoes and socks off in meetings? Do they bring banjo's too

 

[GaryA]

Mrs FF likes to dress smart for the office, sometimes that's trousers, sometimes a smart skirt (I'm so glad pencil skirts are back in) or a dress of various sometime figure hugging shapes. Does she look feminine?
Well combined with stocking/hold-ups and stilletos, it works for me.... Jeez I'm a lucky guy ... but then so are the guys in her office, she's just upset that after all that effort she goes to, she doesn't get any lewd remarks

Photo please, I know you have one... its only fair... after all, you were drooling over my missus's piccy a few weeks ago..

 

[GrumpyGregry]

Shoes and socks off in meetings? Do they bring banjo's too

No. But some do sit crossed legged on their chairs.

 

[Fnaar]

Ahem. I assume she was over 16?

Perhaps your male colleagues needed to grow up a bit?

How many squillions of pop songs aimed at a mature audience have boy/girl in the lyrics? How come English has no decent alternative to boyfriend/girlfriend apart from the oh so dull 'partner', even for OAPs... ?

 

[Fab Foodie]

Photo please, I know you have one... its only fair... after all, you were drooling over my missus's piccy a few weeks ago..

We could come to some arrangement