Men are Barstewards!

[Wigsie]

I think if you're really determined and completely amoral then its possible to conduct an affair without anyone finding out. However, with the levels of paranoia and the complexities of leading a double life involved, you'll come unstuck eventually.

Personally I couldn't do it. And this is despite having been severely betrayed by my partner a few years ago, our marriage nearly ending, and having a number of very attractive male friends! It would have been an option but even then the thought of physically being with someone else when still married was repulsive. I just don't think that there is any excuse for it, although it seems to have happened throughout history.

Sorry to hear that Kirstie, it is quite suprising just how many people have been on the recieving end of betrayal.

I do find it hard to believe the media are to blame.. as you said, it seemed to have happened throughout history.

 

[Kirstie]

Sorry to hear that Kirstie, it is quite suprising just how many people have been on the recieving end of betrayal.

I do find it hard to believe the media are to blame.. as you said, it seemed to have happened throughout history.

Thanks...having been through the mill, I'm happy to say that I'm still married, but we really really worked at it. I think that sometimes people are either not self aware enough, or not committed enough to work out common ground and build on it. Quite often the easy option is to leave/cheat - it would certainly have been easier if my husband had cheated (he didn't - it was something else) because that would have been it, but you don't learn much that way...

 

[ufkacbln]

Hey, guess what? When my wife and I decided we wanted to spend our lives together we stood up in front of all our families and friends and swore that we would foresake alll others 'til death did us part. It's part of this old-fashioned thing called MARRIAGE, which nonbody has mentioned in over 2 pages of this thread.

Having sworn that oath in front of my family and friends I don't have any intention of breaking my word as I still believe in my word being worth something.

Old-fashioned, I know, but it ain't half good for our growing son to know his Mum and Dad aren't going to separate, despite life's ups and downs.

...and you call yourselves "Normal"?

 

[Globalti]

...Er, no, we're probably quite unusual in this day and age.