Reynard
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LOL, makes sense.
It's not so much the grass that's been growing here, but the weeds...
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LOL, makes sense.
It's not so much the grass that's been growing here, but the weeds...
It's keeping your *own* sanity that's the hard bit.And that of your immediate family. Dad would get violent and abusive, and it's kind of funny how family friends and other relations (not that we had many) seemed to disappear out of the picture. It leaves you feeling really isolated.
A sympathetic ear, in these situations, is a godsend.
We haven't had "violent and abusive" yet, but a self-centred nasty person with Alzheimers.....it is surely only a matter of time. My sanity isn't an issue, as I have nothing to do with him (he lives in Leicester), but his poor wife, who is 87, is a constant worry for us. Thanks so much for your thoughts, which are very much appreciated.
Andy in Germany
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It's keeping your *own* sanity that's the hard bit.
It can get particularly bad when the abusive person 'gaslights' by making it appear to friends and family that everything is fine and normal, so whenever you go for help you are ignored or worse, criticised as the people around support the abuser. Such people are called 'flying monkeys' after the Wizard of Oz characters.
Keeping sane and getting support is vital: I'm astonished how many men in our addiction detox programme ended up there because they were self medicating due to an abusive relationship.
- Location
- Next door to Mr Benn at No 54
It is to be noted that it is not easy to watch a football match, when a cat decides, for the first time, to sit on the tv stand.
OP
OP
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- Manchester
We've had a lovely time sitting in the evening sunshine with the family. None of the neighbours were outside!
M&S was lovely and quiet this evening.
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- Next door to Mr Benn at No 54
I have been adopted on a part-time basis, by next door's cat. 
She is very old, and likes to visit my garden, wander into the kitchen and ask for food. She eats the same brand of food as Bob and Kizzy, and my neighbours are happy for me to give her small amounts of food. She used to be very much a "stay at home" cat, but in this warmer weather she is outside a lot. She follows me around the garden, and sits near me when I am in my garden lounger.
Bob does not seem bothered, but Kizzy is more nervous about another cat being in the kitchen. As Tiger is very old, she is always wanting to be near people. She is a lovely dark brown/black stripey cat, who "talks" a lot.
She is very old, and likes to visit my garden, wander into the kitchen and ask for food. She eats the same brand of food as Bob and Kizzy, and my neighbours are happy for me to give her small amounts of food. She used to be very much a "stay at home" cat, but in this warmer weather she is outside a lot. She follows me around the garden, and sits near me when I am in my garden lounger.Bob does not seem bothered, but Kizzy is more nervous about another cat being in the kitchen. As Tiger is very old, she is always wanting to be near people. She is a lovely dark brown/black stripey cat, who "talks" a lot.
Reynard
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- Cambridgeshire, UK
^^^ This.
Mum and I know that feeling so well. It was a relief when the end came.
Reynard
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- Cambridgeshire, UK
I have been adopted on a part-time basis, by next door's cat.
Bob does not seem bothered, but Kizzy is more nervous about another cat being in the kitchen. As Tiger is very old, she is always wanting to be near people. She is a lovely dark brown/black stripey cat, who "talks" a lot.
Ah bless, Tiger sounds lovely
Reynard
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- Cambridgeshire, UK
Reynard
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- Location
- Cambridgeshire, UK
I think I've calmed down enough after the football to have that 
and the last doughnut. 
and the last doughnut.
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- Next door to Mr Benn at No 54
Ah bless, Tiger sounds lovely
She is lovely. She is very ill (heart problems), and very old. I think she gets disorientated and wants company. On Thursday, her home will be Flee "bombed" so I have been warned that Tiger will be out all day. I have thought about putting a very old towel or sheet on the patio in the shade for her.
During this hot weather, Bob and Kizzy have their favourite "nests" in the front garden, so Tiger can be with me in the back garden.
Reynard
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- Cambridgeshire, UK
Sounds like a plan xxx Maybe a bowl of cold water too.
Poppy and Lexi love splashing in their big "Torus" water bowl.
Give Tiger a gentle chin tickle from me when you see her next.
- Location
- Next door to Mr Benn at No 54
Good idea about the bowl of water. Bob and Kizzy have a water bowl, but it would mean that Tiger can get a drink without getting past Kizzy.
My neighbour's father died about ten days ago, and she works part-time, and they have a seven year old son. I am pleased to be able to help by keeping Tiger company.
My neighbour's father died about ten days ago, and she works part-time, and they have a seven year old son. I am pleased to be able to help by keeping Tiger company.
