My best friend keeps sending dating info...

[threebikesmcginty]

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[Retribution03]

Ignore any of your friends attempts to set you up with a partner you'll find your own at some point I know dating sites do sometimes work but most people before they came along found someone by meeting them before they knew everything about them.sometimes as they say opposites attract...good luck with whatever you decide

 

[luckyfox]

Ignore any of your friends attempts to set you up with a partner you'll find your own at some point I know dating sites do sometimes work but most people before they came along found someone by meeting them before they knew everything about them.sometimes as they say opposites attract...good luck with whatever you decide

Thank you. I did dip my toe online but it's not for me. I like to meet people through social groups or activities i like (not work) because you can't hide who you are when you're directly in front of someone. Online is a tricky place.

 

[Dayvo]

Online is a tricky place.

Ooh, I don't know! I've met all my victims ex-girlfriends on dating sites.

 

[luckyfox]

Ooh, I don't know! I've met all my victims ex-girlfriends on dating sites.

Don't worry, as part of the online process we are warned about the suchlike of you!!

 

[Dayvo]

Don't worry, as part of the online process we are warned about the suchlike of you!!

Glad to hear it.

 

[Cyclist33]

Jokers and trolls.. this ones not for you, looking for the wise owls please!

As I may have mentioned previously I am single and very much happily so. My best friend has been married for a number of years, in fact almost all of my close friends are married and he along with a couple of others send me info on dating or enquire as to that part of my life. (In a sweet, friendly way)

I love them to bits and I know they just want to see me happy but it hurts a bit that they can't see I'm already really very happy. Yes it would be nice to start seeing someone special, I date but I've just not met anyone I feel a connection with. My best friend is the sweetest man and he said some lovely things recently that got me thinking. He knows me best and maybe I am a bit closed off to a long term relationship. Not opposed... just not 'receiving and transmitting signal' as he put it.

My oldest/closest friends are all settled down and I do feel a tad 'Bridget Jones' when we all meet up. I have very few single good friends. I tend to float around different social circles atm. Since I've built up so much on my fitness this year I've grown apart from a lot of people. It's been really hard at times but in following my passions we've just drifted. I've loved focusing a lot on myself recently and just not really made any new strong friend/relationship connections. I get that my close friends are happily settled, having babies etc but my life is kinda on a different path.

But maybe it is time?

Stick with what makes you happy. I'm in the same position, I appreciate my mates and their well meaning attempts and advice but they just can't grasp that I'm happy!!

If it helps you to think of it as them being the unhappy ones because they can't exist on their own... that's kinda - privately - what I do!

 

[luckyfox]

Stick with what makes you happy. I'm in the same position, I appreciate my mates and their well meaning attempts and advice but they just can't grasp that I'm happy!!

If it helps you to think of it as them being the unhappy ones because they can't exist on their own... that's kinda - privately - what I do!

You get it!

 

[vernon]

Being happy and single now is no guarantee that you will be happy and single in later life. Look at Numbnuts.

 

[rich p]

You can be single and unhappy, single and happy, coupled up be and happy or unhappy or happily married while shagging your wife's best friend. Other arrangements are possible.

 

[GrasB]

Jokers and trolls.. this ones not for you, looking for the wise owls please!

As I may have mentioned previously I am single and very much happily so. My best friend has been married for a number of years, in fact almost all of my close friends are married and he along with a couple of others send me info on dating or enquire as to that part of my life. (In a sweet, friendly way)

I love them to bits and I know they just want to see me happy but it hurts a bit that they can't see I'm already really very happy. Yes it would be nice to start seeing someone special, I date but I've just not met anyone I feel a connection with. My best friend is the sweetest man and he said some lovely things recently that got me thinking. He knows me best and maybe I am a bit closed off to a long term relationship. Not opposed... just not 'receiving and transmitting signal' as he put it.

My oldest/closest friends are all settled down and I do feel a tad 'Bridget Jones' when we all meet up. I have very few single good friends. I tend to float around different social circles atm. Since I've built up so much on my fitness this year I've grown apart from a lot of people. It's been really hard at times but in following my passions we've just drifted. I've loved focusing a lot on myself recently and just not really made any new strong friend/relationship connections. I get that my close friends are happily settled, having babies etc but my life is kinda on a different path.

But maybe it is time?

I know where you're coming from. I've always been a 'solo' person featuring on the milder side of the Aspergers scale. I simply preferred not to be in a relationship because it was just too much hassle. I was very much single & content but friends wouldn't accept it, they'd try to set me up on dates. Being the sort of person I am this just made me feel awkward & a touch depressed about it all, of course my friends would assume this was because I wasn't with someone... . I think it's a social norm that's so engrained in society that people simply don't get you enjoy being single. I have a good friend, in her 50s, who's always getting 'help' from friends finding a partner, well it only took her father about 35 years to understand she just isn't interested in a long term relationship.

For me what happen was one day a frustrated/upset new girl arrived at work. Because we shared a lot of base line personality traits which aren't considered normal we built a close, strong friendship though mutual understanding of each others mind set. We started to use each other as social cover, but before long we found it was no longer social cover & now we're married. Neither of us were looking for a partner, we just found each other by circumstance, I think I'd still be happily single had I not met my wife.

 

[Vapin' Joe]

When I was single I found the married people who kept commenting on my status were in lousy relationships and couldn't bear to see someone else carefree and content.

 

[luckyfox]

I appreciate the feedback. It's been good to hear others feel the same. One of my good single friends has just come back off holiday on her own. I really admire that! People like her, like Coco Chanel, who follow their passions instead of the expected.

I know my married friends are happy and maybe if I'd of sat on a different bus seat next to a nice chap one day id be down a different path too. Who knows.

I talked to my bestie and told him while I appreciate his kindness I have future plans for myself and I'm fine do those alone. He's a babe and he will send me more crap next week but that why I love the guy.

 

[cyberknight]

If your happy then carry on, i was single for years after a disastrous relationship but lonely untill the much maligned but soulmate swmbo came along.

 

[summerdays]

We have one friend in our main group of friends who has always been single as far as I'm aware, but happily so. We used to it and he seems happy. Now the new problem is that one of the couples has split, and dealing with both of them and new partners.