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I thought this was going to be one of those things about not going to school reunions as a lot of the people have turned into complete knob heads,

Many of my school 'mates' decided to go through that process a bit quicker. One reason I'm not on F_cebook is that I really don't want them knowing where I am.
 

Accy cyclist

Legendary Member
There's a school reunion arranged for Saturday the 10th of January. It's in a pub not too far away, meaning I could walk there. The organisers have set up a chat page on some social media. The thing is I haven't been mentioned once! Maybe I've been overlooked, and they aren't sending out a 'we rather you didn't come' message as my slight paranoia suggests. I wasn't popular at school, as in one of the clique. Nore was I unpopular, as in one of the bullies, or creeps etc. I was pretty insignificant. A fellow insignificant ex pupil, when I asked if he would be going said he won't be as he hates the bullies from that school period from 1972 to 1977. He told me some of those bullies send him best wishes messages on Facebook when it's his birthday etc, but he ignores them. I told him that it was 50 years ago and those people probably regret their bullying days and in a way they aren't the same person, but he won't have it. I interact with those ex bullies as to me, it all happened a long time ago, so that person probably regrets those days. I think I'll be going to this reunion, even if the bloke I've mentioned won't be going. If it involved a taxi there and back, I'd most likely give it a miss, but with the venue being so close, which to be fair to the organisers, they took folks ability to get there into consideration, as if it'd been miles away from our former school, it would've been difficult to reach for those of us who can't walk for miles, and for those who don't like travelling in taxis, like me in both cases. If I feel uncomfortable when I've been there for a while, I'll make my excuses and leave. If I'm interacting well, I'll stay till the end. These events only come round as we know every decade, even every other decade, so this could be my last chance to see those folk, many of who I haven't seen since 1977.
 

Accy cyclist

Legendary Member
My mind keeps saying to me 'what if they don't recognise you'. Think how old you'll look to them'. It forgets to mention that we'll all be unrecognisable to some and it's not just me who's fifty years older! If I go well dressed, as I intend to do, but not 'flashy', which I hope I never come across as, and I explain my disabilities, as in speech impediment caused by my neck cancer, I'm sure they won't think 'there's something wrong with him' etc. I can only do my best! Maybe I'm over thinking it and most will be tanked up, not giving a toss about who is there and how those who are there present themselves and how they act. Yes, I'm definitely going to go to this school reunion! I'm going to start by sending a message to this social media page the organisers set up, telling them I intend to go and I'm looking forward to seeing and talking to folk, many of who I haven't seen or spoken to in many cases, in fifty long years!
 
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I have been to a couple of school reunions for the last 2 years

There had been one the year before but I was too nervous to try it

Anyway - Yes - people had changed
a few were quite obviously very similar
but on long haired bloke in a t-shirt/leather jacket and jeans looked absolutely nothing like he had at school
Only people who knew my Dad recognised me!


basically everyone knew the same problem and introduced themselves in the way they were known at school

people dressed in different ways - and no-one was bothered

some people had done very very well for themselves (one was an Admiral!!!) others had one OK but no-one cared - you just were what you were

and we all remembered what we were like at school

some people that I hardly ever spoke to at school were people I had a good conversation with

some people had to fill us in about even what class they were in because they were so "ordinary" -

but it all went well


I would imagine other places would be different - but it might be worth going anyway
everyone has changed and done things
so everyone is different

and you will be the best dressed!
 

Accy cyclist

Legendary Member
I have been to a couple of school reunions for the last 2 years

There had been one the year before but I was too nervous to try it

Anyway - Yes - people had changed
a few were quite obviously very similar
but on long haired bloke in a t-shirt/leather jacket and jeans looked absolutely nothing like he had at school
Only people who knew my Dad recognised me!


basically everyone knew the same problem and introduced themselves in the way they were known at school

people dressed in different ways - and no-one was bothered

some people had done very very well for themselves (one was an Admiral!!!) others had one OK but no-one cared - you just were what you were

and we all remembered what we were like at school

some people that I hardly ever spoke to at school were people I had a good conversation with

some people had to fill us in about even what class they were in because they were so "ordinary" -

but it all went well


I would imagine other places would be different - but it might be worth going anyway
everyone has changed and done things
so everyone is different

and you will be the best dressed!

I have to ask! Did that Admiral turn up in full naval uniform?🤔 😉
 

Accy cyclist

Legendary Member
I have been to a couple of school reunions for the last 2 years

There had been one the year before but I was too nervous to try it

Anyway - Yes - people had changed
a few were quite obviously very similar
but on long haired bloke in a t-shirt/leather jacket and jeans looked absolutely nothing like he had at school
Only people who knew my Dad recognised me!


basically everyone knew the same problem and introduced themselves in the way they were known at school

people dressed in different ways - and no-one was bothered

some people had done very very well for themselves (one was an Admiral!!!) others had one OK but no-one cared - you just were what you were

and we all remembered what we were like at school

some people that I hardly ever spoke to at school were people I had a good conversation with

some people had to fill us in about even what class they were in because they were so "ordinary" -

but it all went well


I would imagine other places would be different - but it might be worth going anyway
everyone has changed and done things
so everyone is different

and you will be the best dressed!

Imagine though if I send 'Hi there! I hope to be there on the 10th of January! I'm looking forward to seeing folk, many of who I haven't seen in nearly fifty years!' With a winking 😉 emoji. Then they reply 'Sorry, but we can't remember you, but yes, turn up if you must!'


😲 🙄 😦

😬 😂 😂 😂
 

oxoman

Über Member
I did a works reunion last year after having left nearly 27 yrs beforehand. A few recognised me and tbh it wasn't to bad. Would I go to a school reunion, absolutely not, lost a few good mates from school quite early due to accidents and bullying was common place and I'd want payback i suspect.
 
Imagine though if I send 'Hi there! I hope to be there on the 10th of January! I'm looking forward to seeing folk, many of who I haven't seen in nearly fifty years!' With a winking 😉 emoji. Then they reply 'Sorry, but we can't remember you, but yes, turn up if you must!'


😲 🙄 😦

😬 😂 😂 😂

But imagine if you get there and people want to talk to you and you meet people you hardly knew at school but you catch up and get on well
or you meet someone you knew at school and have a lovely time catching up


Basically you are going through all the things I went through and ended up not going to our first reunion
then managed to put aside and had a great time at the second

I know it is scary - but sometimes you have to put that aside and give it a go

from what you said it is close by
so it is is rubbish you can just leave and walk home

sending hugs - I know how you feel!
 

Accy cyclist

Legendary Member
On about that school reunion I intend to go to, one former pupil said he's coming over from southern Spain where he's lived for years, to see his old classmates! He said he's booked a room for a week in a hotel, intending to visit relatives and see places he hasn't been to in many years! Now if he can make such an effort, I'm sure I can walk 10 minutes to that local pub! Plus, he was one of the victims of those bullies, so he seems to have a forgive and forget attitude. Unless that is, he has some kind of revenge on his mind!🤔 🙄

😉
 
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On about that school reunion I intend to go to, one former pupil said he's coming over from southern Spain where he's lived for years, to see his old classmates! He said he's booked a room for a week in a hotel, intending to visit relatives and see places he hasn't been to in many years! Now if he can make such an effort, I'm sure I can walk 10 minutes to that local pub! Plus, he was one of the victims of those bullies, so he seems to have a forgive and forget attitude. Unless that is, he has some kind of revenge on his mind!🤔🙄

😉

Do cordings do stab proof vests??

but seriously - great to hear

let us know how it all goes!
 

Accy cyclist

Legendary Member
But imagine if you get there and people want to talk to you and you meet people you hardly knew at school but you catch up and get on well
or you meet someone you knew at school and have a lovely time catching up


Basically you are going through all the things I went through and ended up not going to our first reunion
then managed to put aside and had a great time at the second

I know it is scary - but sometimes you have to put that aside and give it a go

from what you said it is close by
so it is is rubbish you can just leave and walk home

sending hugs - I know how you feel!

I am quite a sociable type, who thinks that I am, what I am, not all due to me wanting or planning it to be that way! I can chat for ages, sometimes I must admit more about me than the person I'm chatting to. I must remember when there, to let the other person say more words than I say, pretending to be intensely interested in what they have to say, even if I'm bored out of my head! I'll have a look at my 'bible' to see if there's a chapter or a page about communication etiquette.😉

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