Nigelnaturist - anyone know where he is / is he ok?

[Nigelnaturist]

Good to see you back Nigel

I won't be riding much even so till I get a new gatorskin, the outer casing final started to separate from the carcass after 12,000 miles with out a puncture (front)

 

[SpokeyDokey]

@Nigelnaturist

Sorry about your mate.

Nice to see you back - have missed your gearing posts!

 

[rogdodge52]

you have plenty of friends on here Nigel

 

[Nigelnaturist]

@rogdodge52 so it seems
@SpokeyDokey, its quite complex even before this cancer thing, he is wheel chair bound due to a spinal injury, though partial mobile for short periods, i.e. loo ect, we have been through similar health care as in O.T. and referred to the camera club we both attended (which is where I met him), so as a consequence of the disability his moral is general pretty low and he has quite dark thoughts, so this just compounds problems.
I try to get him interested in computer related things built him a nice little system earlier this year (compared with the old sempron laptop he had), but all he does is a bit of shopping and browsing, so basically all I can do as I don't drive is company, and I can rattle on about stuff, as you all might be aware, it doesn't help as he is a musician and now can't play many of the things he used to.

 

[cyberknight]

Welcome back o master of gear ratios .
Hope you mate gets what he needs and goes into permanent remission , my wife had cancer very young and was one of the fist in the uk to have combined chemo + radiotherapy.

 

[Nigelnaturist]

Welcome back o master of gear ratios .
Hope you mate gets what he needs and goes into permanent remission , my wife had cancer very young and was one of the fist in the uk to have combined chemo + radiotherapy.

Cheers, glad she made a recovery.
Its his attitude that worries me, he has talked about not even going for treatment, I can't stress how much in solitude he his, he gets lots of people to see him, but only for may 10-20 mins, me I can stay there all day, but can't get over as often as I would like sometimes, but all I can do is chat, but then I can chat., he doesn't go out, his mobile chair might just get him into town and back about 3/4 mile, but he can't trust it. I think you get the idea.

 

[cyberknight]

Cheers, glad she made a recovery.
Its his attitude that worries me, he has talked about not even going for treatment, I can't stress how much in solitude he his, he gets lots of people to see him, but only for may 10-20 mins, me I can stay there all day, but can't get over as often as I would like sometimes, but all I can do is chat, but then I can chat., he doesn't go out, his mobile chair might just get him into town and back about 3/4 mile, but he can't trust it. I think you get the idea.

Contact Macmillan , my dad got a lot of support from home care to beds/ chairs so you might be able to get a decent mobility chair ?

 

[Nigelnaturist]

Contact Macmillan , my dad got a lot of support from home care to beds/ chairs so you might be able to get a decent mobility chair ?

He has the numbers, but he is not making the calls he needs to, I will mention about the mobility thing tomorrow, didn't cross my mind that, my dad he wasn't out of hospital long enough before the hospice for them to really help, about a week I think, it is all a blur these days, I was so tired.

 

[puffinbilly]

As ever @Nigelnaturist you come across as a thoroughly decent bloke - hope your mate gets the care and support he needs.

 

[Nigelnaturist]

As ever @Nigelnaturist you come across as a thoroughly decent bloke - hope your mate gets the care and support he needs.

 

[Colin_P]

As I started this thread I already knew you were a good bloke but reading about how you are helping your friend just reinforces that.

There should be more people like you Sir !

Oh, glad you are back.

 

[Nigelnaturist]

As I started this thread I already knew you were a good bloke but reading about how you are helping your friend just reinforces that.

There should be more people like you Sir !

Oh, glad you are back.

There are many more good people than bad, its just bad gets highlighted more, if it was the other way maybe more of the bad would be good.
Many thanks for your concern about me, which I think supports my statement.

 

[Milkfloat]

Just a thought regarding Musician and computing - do you think you could steer him towards using the pc you built him to create music?

 

[Nigelnaturist]

Just a thought regarding Musician and computing - do you think you could steer him towards using the pc you built him to create music?

He has written music in the past, not sure his mind set is really there at the moment. He was a bit more chipper last night compared with Friday, but I suspect its as much his meds, I was there some 6 hours Friday, and just couldn't hold a conversation, last night we covered quite a few subjects (as we often do).
I will try and bring it in conversation, it would be good if he would get in touch with Macmillan, especially as his in for his op next week.

 

[classic33]

Without prying and speaking? as someone who had support from MacMillan, before & after losing a few bits, entering hospital for the op could be made a lot easier for his mind if he spoke to them.