(Non) Relationship advice

[srw]

Bollox to that! I have one problem and don't want more. "Oh btw, l gave my number to this (tall, slim, blonde) woman at work".............

Why the hell shouldn't you swap numbers with a friend?

 

[tyred]

You can give her my number if you like!

 

[ChrisV]

Giving your number to a talk, blonde gorgeous woman then saying she can text you, when you are actually married, is a mental thing to do. You are in a bit of a predicament there!

 

[MarkF]

Where is my advice? Two workmates know of my problem and are also "loving every minute of it", I was naive (maybe stupid too) but not bad. Remember I am 53, not 33, I'd guess she is 40 ish.

I am not married, although me & MrsF have been together 22 years. This woman wears a wedding ring, although I've no knowledge of her actual circumstances, I've not asked, nor have I been interested.

Will deal with it tomorrow as I jumping put of my skin every time the phone bleeps.

 

[Dayvo]

Will deal with it tomorrow as I jumping put of my skin every time the phone bleeps.

We're ALL waiting with baited breath.

Hope it works out positively for you.

 

[Mrs M]

Where is my advice? Two workmates know of my problem and are also "loving every minute of it", I was naive (maybe stupid too) but not bad.

I am not married, although me & MrsF have been together 22 years. This woman wears a wedding ring, although I've no knowledge of her actual circumstances, I've not asked, nor have I been interested.

Will deal with it tomorrow as I jumping put of my skin every time the phone bleeps.

Don't "sweat it", you've done nothing wrong, just been a friendly colleague and she took it the wrong way.
Never mind your workmates, maybe they're "loving every minute" as they've no other interests
Good luck

 

[ChrisV]

I'm wondering if you're being absolutely honest about why you gave her your number. If not for the usual reasons people give their number to blonde, tall, gorgeous women, you must be very naive.

How would your wife react to you telling her what you did?

 

[Richard A Thackeray]

We work in a hospital, yes, she is tall, slim, blonde & good looking, l am still not interested tho' because MrsF is my "type".

I too work in a Hospital, & are surrounded by the above description of Nurses (as well as short ones, brunettes, various ethnic backgrounds)
Then again, I'm not a catch for anyone!! (I count myself lucky to have found my wife, 30 years ago)

One of my best mates, is a Nurse, who left about 2 years ago (& is returning shortly)
We talk via whatever method every week, phone, text, FaceBook Messenger, etc..., and actually meet up once a month or so, for 'tea & cake'

Thankfully we're both happily married, I know her husband too (& her sister-in-law - who works for Ambulance Service), so there's no problems
My wife was a bit 'iffy' at first, but she knows we're not going to do anything

My buddy's not a 'tall, willowy, blonde', far from it, she's got about 15 tattoos, green/purple tints to her hair (last time I saw her), & rides a Suzuki SFV 650cc
Oh!, & as 'mad as a box of frogs', that's due to all the time she worked in A&E departments

 

[TVC]

She wears a wedding ring? There's your out.... suggest going out for a drink, her and her husband, and you with your partner. That will make it clear that you have no horizontal intentions.

 

[Crackle]

My buddy's not a 'tall, willowy, blonde', far from it, she's got about 15 tattoos, green/purple tints

Oh I didn't see the 'n' then.

You can probably tell how my mind works now.

 

[MarkF]

I'm wondering if you're being absolutely honest about why you gave her your number. If not for the usual reasons people give their number to blonde, tall, gorgeous women, you must be very naive.

You are the second person to use the word "gorgeous", a word I have not used. Of course I am honest, if I'd chanced my arm by giving my number to woman I fancied, who then reacted positively, then I wouldn't be on CC asking for help would I? I'd be in the Shipley Travelodge.

 

[ChrisV]

Why did you do it then???

Just for future reference, don't do it again!!

 

[Vapin' Joe]

Tell her you just want a bit on the side, no strings.

 

[MarkF]

Tell her you just want a bit on the side, no strings.

But I don't. Julie on Ward 20 though.................

 

[Pat "5mph"]

One woman I particularly get on with, a lot verbal sparring took place every time we met, gentle micky taking and so forth, I looked forward to seeing her

Hey, you were flirting, and looking forward to the flirt too!
I work with a large workforce too, mostly we all have each others numbers for communication purposes, premises are very big, radios always taken: I would never give my number to a male colleague saying "you can text me if you want to" text if you need something work related, yes, that would have been more correct.
Anyway, the damage is done. You did a Brexit on yourself, you had no plan in case the result was unexpected hehe.

Where's my wording advice? I am thinking of ways (words) to let her down gently but l just know that it is not going to go well.

Ignore her flirting texts. but face to face mention your wife and your family life several times: she will get the message, nothing more explicit needs to be said imo.
Mind, she'll think you have chickened out of an affair, imo, that's what I would think

Giving your number to a talk, blonde gorgeous woman then saying she can text you, when you are actually married, is a mental thing to do. You are in a bit of a predicament there!

Why, if she'd been short, brunette and plain it would have been ok?

I am not married, although me & MrsF have been together 22 years. This woman wears a wedding ring, although I've no knowledge of her actual circumstances, I've not asked, nor have I been interested.

Both parties actively not mentioning each others family commitments when "having a banter"?
Both parties are flirting.