Not in a relationship

[Belly]

From the age of 14, I've always had girlfriends. I've been married twice and divorced twice, and up until two years ago I was still chasing around after women. I call it penile dementia, the way I was living my life because it was like I couldn't help myself, and it caused a lot of problems over the years. And then it all stopped. It was like someone flicked a switch, and I can honestly say, my life is so much easier now. I don't miss being in a relationship, and I'm enjoying my own company.
I always thought it would be a lonely life, but it's not, it's great. So, does anyone else enjoy the single/celibate lifestyle?

 

[Cycling Naturalist]

I'm not sure that I'd like to be single AND celibate.

 

[Moodyman]

I found that once I got married, I had to make more compromises.

Whilst it sounds bad, it helped me become a better person all round.

So whilst I understand being single has advantanges, I think a loving relationship offers much more.

You say you were twice divorced. It's possible that you didn't find the right people. In such cases, I can imagine being single is better than slogging it out with someone you don't get on with.

 

[accountantpete]

I have been single since I was 40 (now 55!) and don't miss it one bit.

The nice thing is that you can make harebrained decisions without worrying about the consequences for nearest and dearest.

 

[smokeysmoo]

What about married and celibate

 

[Moodyman]

What about married and celibate

You upset your Mrs again Smokey. Time to pick up some flowers on the way home from work.

 

[wiggydiggy]

Single and loving it.

I have a saying "I don't like having girlfriends, as I don't like having ex-girlfriends"

Find life much easier sans commitment, usual jokes about toilet seats and nagging aside its a simpler existence and one which lets me do what I want, when I want.

 

[MacB]

From the age of 14, I've always had girlfriends. I've been married twice and divorced twice, and up until two years ago I was still chasing around after women. I call it penile dementia, the way I was living my life because it was like I couldn't help myself, and it caused a lot of problems over the years. And then it all stopped. It was like someone flicked a switch, and I can honestly say, my life is so much easier now. I don't miss being in a relationship, and I'm enjoying my own company.
I always thought it would be a lonely life, but it's not, it's great. So, does anyone else enjoy the single/celibate lifestyle?

At 24 that's a lot to have crammed into the last 10 years, there's time yet

 

[smokeysmoo]

You upset your Mrs again Smokey. Time to pick up some flowers on the way home from work.

I couldn't afford a bunch big enough

 

[Cycling Naturalist]

I found that once I got married, I had to make more compromises.

No girlfriends!

 

[MissTillyFlop]

I think it's each to their own on this. I was very happy when I was single (I was far from celibate though!)

I wasn't on the lookout for a partner but we met and we both kind of just knew. We compromise when we need to but we hardly ever need to.

 

[Ludwig]

There is that plentyoffish or fitness singles which are free dating sites and you see their ads cyclechat. There might be someone in your own areas that you can hook up with either as friends or in a serious relationship.

 

[funnymummy]

After a disasterous marriage, I stupidly fell into a rebound relationship while slogging out a very nasty divorce, I know now I was at a real low point & very vunerable, what I really needed was support, what I got was a control freak who totaly took over my life..I did get two amazing children though!
It took me another three years to realise the hold he had over me & be able to make the break, even then it took serious action to get him to realise we were over & that the only link we shared were our children.
I looked bcak over the previous 10yrs of my life & realised that every bad thing that had gone wrong was down to a man, not that i'm putting men down, just the 2, I had been involved with - I realised that I needed to find myself again & that a nice break from men was probably needed

I've been single & celibate for 5yrs now.. I like my life, I enjoy my own company, I can do what I want when I want (mostly) I've got sick of my single friends thinking I must be lonley & constantly trying to fix me up with their boyfriends & husbands mates & brothers, so much so i've stopped speaking to several! I've not been looking for a new man, but who knows what will happen, the right one may be out there somewhere

 

[wiggydiggy]

There is that plentyoffish or fitness singles which are free dating sites and you see their ads cyclechat. There might be someone in your own areas that you can hook up with either as friends or in a serious relationship.

Not to jump on you but this post and what FunnyMummy mentions about well meaning friends trying to 'set you up' can be annoying.

This site itself until recently carried ads for 'cycling singles' and in life in general we are bombarded with relationship/dating adverts espeically in recent years where internet dating has become less the territory of sword wielding dungeon masters and more the common ground for Josephine Public.


So apoligies I'm not having a go at you specifically, just the attitude of 'lets hook up our friends' that so many people seem to have even unconsciously.

 

[MissTillyFlop]

Not to jump on you but this post and what FunnyMummy mentions about well meaning friends trying to 'set you up' can be annoying.

This site itself until recently carried ads for 'cycling singles' and in life in general we are bombarded with relationship/dating adverts espeically in recent years where internet dating has become less the territory of sword wielding dungeon masters and more the common ground for Josephine Public.


So apoligies I'm not having a go at you specifically, just the attitude of 'lets hook up our friends' that so many people seem to have even unconsciously.

Also, having used dating sites, I can confirm that it is hideous.

As is being set up with mates' friends.