Not sure what to do.

[markharry66]

For years I have cycled alone miles on the road and enjoyed it.
Recently had a new partner who has shown an interest in bikes.
Every weekend we or I have spare she wants to go out with me.
While this no problem, I end up looking over my shoulder every five minutes, fixing her bike etc.

As she is still quite new to cycling she finds it difficult on long distances.
I havent been able to do any long distances on a bike for a while as she always wants to go out with me help any advice would be good advice at this point

 

[Cyclist33]

Dump her.

 

[Smokin Joe]

Keep taking her out, give her plenty of tips and encouragement and she'll soon build up to match your distances. We all have to start somewhere and the most common complaint newcomers to the sport have is that people race off and leave them behind.

 

[Fab Foodie]

It's difficult.
I spend much of my time looking after the mellower-paced riders for our club of which several friends and Mrs FF have also joined. I like to ride with them, but also need some 'me' riding time too, otherwise my own fitness and performance drop.
Is there another time you can ride alone OR do some extra faster miles after riding with her?
Failing that .... tell her to speed up!

 

[vickster]

Explain to her how you feel. Perhaps see if there's a breeze ride or similar she could do

 

[SteveF]

Get up early, go out and exhaust yourself then go out with her

 

[Cyclist33]

Keep taking her out, give her plenty of tips and encouragement and she'll soon build up to match your distances. We all have to start somewhere and the most common complaint newcomers to the sport have is that people race off and leave them behind.

She might just as equally not do anything of the sort. Plenty of people give things a try and then stop.

 

[Profpointy]

tandem?

 

[helston90]

Plan a route which passes near to her house after a certain distance allowing you to tack on an extra load of miles which she heads back, she can then make a start with cooking lunch whilst you finish off?

 

[mustang1]

Many years ago, I had a similar problem with a new partner. She wanted to meet me during my sports time. As a result, giving her priority made my sports time obsolete.

In one way I wish I paid more attention to my sport, but in another way I'm glad I spent time with her.

So what to do with your predicament? Don't go out with her every single time. Cut it in half. You won't be able to train as much, but at least you'll get to spend time on the bike with her.

This way, when you're training, you're thinking only of your training. And when you're riding with her, you're only thinking of riding with her.

 

[threebikesmcginty]

What Helston said, do a comfortable route with your partner, then you stay out for a longer one, everyone's happy.

 

[si_c]

My wife likes to ride, but she doesn't like hills and often wants to stop to smell the scenery. It's infuriating at times, but she likes to ride with me and I enjoy the company. I get extra time and for my commute, and I often go out for an hour or so in the evening as well on my own. It's just about finding the right compromise.

 

[Racing roadkill]

Tell her there's something wrong with her bike, and that the bit you need to fix it is only made by Clangers, on the moon, and it takes a while to get here.

 

[Ihatehills]

My missus comes with me often, and i quite enjoy the rest it gives me although I do feel guilty when I see how much effort it's costing her. I enjoy riding by myself and with her evenly but for different reasons. Just explain to her that you do need to cycle alone every now and then. Or as @helston90 said plot a route where you can drop her off at her limit.

 

[Markymark]

Ask if her fitter younger sister can go with you instead?