Relationships with a large age gap ........

[Aperitif]

And Crankarm is possibly jealous of the opportunities that he is unable to take advantage of?
That's a sorry state of affairs if true, but I would imagine the original post is one of mischief...'live and let live' - we all agree on that or we wouldn't be cyclists eh Crankarm?

BTW There's musical choice on the other 'we love Noodley' threads tonight.

 

[longers]

Nope...... don't think so longers. Anyway, you got anything constructive to add as per my original post?

In reply to

Originally Posted by Crankarm View Post
If two people are happy enjoying themselves why are others so bitter, critical or dismissive? Are they just envious or jealous? Surely, live and let live?

I said

Dunno, but there's a lot of it about, not just ageism in relationships but worrying about the goings on of others who are doing no one any harm or mischief.

Rod Stewart and his love life came up

Rod Stewart seems to have had his share of relationships with much younger women. I wonder what they find attractive in him - his singing ability, sense of humour, lifestyle or bank balance, or ........
or all of these?

Don't worry you haven't touched a nerve by criticising Rod Stewart but it seems a little hypocritical from your first post and then you say you're trying to stir it up in post 11. Live and let live eh?

 

[Crankarm]

In reply to

I said

Rod Stewart and his love life came up

Don't worry you haven't touched a nerve by criticising Rod Stewart but it seems a little hypocritical from your first post and then you say you're trying to stir it up in post 11. Live and let live eh?

Nothing hyprocritcal just trying to see if there is any more response other than a rather damp squib. Maybe cyclechatters have lead a rather sheltered life.

I think the comments to Frank Skinner's article itself posted underneath on the Times website may be more interesting than this thread, but I might yet be wrong, (he hopes.....).

 

[MacB]

Nope...... don't think so longers. Anyway, you got anything constructive to add as per my original post?

well it's certainly a lifetime goal to foster, aim to marry a 17 year old when you're 112. To make the 112 though I think you'll need to loosen up a little Cranky.

 

[Crankarm]

well it's certainly a lifetime goal to foster, aim to marry a 17 year old when you're 112. To make the 112 though I think you'll need to loosen up a little Cranky.

Is that your life time goal then McB? Maybe 112 and one day is all you would live to having fulfilled it .

 

[MacB]

Is that your life time goal then McB? Maybe 112 and one day is all you would live to having fulfilled it .

Nah, I've got sweet fa chance of getting anywhere near that age

 

[longers]

I'm just trying to get this thread going which I have to say is proving rather harder work than I thought. Given that most of the popular media and their readers' pride themselves on knowing the most imtimate details and sitting in judgement on many couples relationships I find it a bit odd .........

Sorry, going back to this post Mr Arm, popular media and their readers? Do you think so little of us? You don't really need to answer that.

 

[Crankarm]

Sorry, going back to this post Mr Arm, popular media and their readers? Do you think so little of us? You don't really need to answer that.

Then I won't .

 

[Aperitif]

Then I won't .

If two people are happy enjoying themselves why are others so bitter, critical or dismissive? Are they just envious or jealous? Surely, live and let live?

Or just be 'Cranky'?

Hey Crankarm. For the majoritory on this forum, this would not even enter our sphere of thinking...we are far too busy rapt in envy of other poster's relationships to worry about your externalising of a non CycleChat member's activities. (I don't know if the guy rides a bike by the way).

 

[Crankarm]

If two people are happy enjoying themselves why are others so bitter, critical or dismissive? Are they just envious or jealous? Surely, live and let live?

Or just be 'Cranky'?

Hey Crankarm. For the majoritory on this forum, this would not even enter our sphere of thinking...we are far too busy rapt in envy of other poster's relationships to worry about your externalising of a non CycleChat member's activities. (I don't know if the guy rides a bike by the way).

Maybe Frank Skinner is just a bit too modern for this forum .

 

[DJ]

Until death us do part ....etc etc

 

[peanut]

my first girlfriend after leaving school was 24 (7 years older than me) it was very educational
My third gf was 28 (10 years older than me)

must have needed a Mature person or was it they needed a toyboy

 

[yello]

I'm afraid most of this thread has me completely flummoxed...

...anyway, age difference in relationships; a subject I have a take on. My friend, a university lecturer, has a girlfriend 20 years his junior. Yes, she was in one of his classes (well, tutorial to be precise). Sounds like a cliché doesn't it!

He's a very intelligent man and I have had some excellent conversations with him. She's an intelligent women and whilst I haven't had the same type of conversations with her, she's clearly an intellectual match for him. But here I have to admit to what might be some kind of prejudice or something; I don't get it. (Obviously, I don't have to, it's THEIR relationship!)

But to try and clarify what is it that I don't get (which, in all honesty, I'm really not sure of), I have to mention his former partner. She was of his age, and a journalist with 2 children. Not the bookish intellect of his new partner but a down to earth and worldly-wise intelligence. Less earnest, more considered, and more aware... and MUCH more the attractive person imo. For the live of me, I cannot see why my friend prefers the new partner.

It's not simply a question of 'what do they talk about?', but of empathy. Empathy developed by simply having been alive for around the same length of time. Having gone through similar times, having reached broadly similar times of live, having broadly similar needs and expectations for the future. (I say broadly, and mean that in it's broadest sense!)

I think my friend's new girlfriend lacks this, the former girlfriend has it by the bucket load. I simply don't get it. But then I don't have to.

 

[BigonaBianchi]

the biggest concern would be the imact on any kids that might materialize.

 

[rich p]

My cycling buddy today was off to his brother's (55) wedding to his 2nd wife (23).
Apparently the reason they're marrying and not just co-habiting is that she wants children in wedlock. His children from the first marriage are older than his new wife and he is also a grandfather so his new children will be younger than his grandchildren.
So what, I suppose, but it all seems strange to an old git like me.

I don't think I could marry a woman younger than my daughter if I was in a similar position to him but that's just me and how I feel it woukld affect my relationship with my children.