Renewing wedding vows.....yes? no? why?

[Dave7]

On the radio there were several requests which mentioned renewing the vows.
We have been married 52 years and never understood why people do it.
Not knocking it..... I just can't a reason to do it. We are still happy (seriously, how could she not be happy with me)
Obviously some people make money from it so wish to promote it as a good idea.
Just to emphasise.....I am not knocking it.........whatever lifts your skirt, as they say.

 

[derrick]

They probably feel insecure. Or it could be they still love each other. Or maybe one has been playing away and wants to make it up again. Ain't really got a clue why you would want to do it twice.

 

[twentysix by twentyfive]

Dressing up and ceremony?

 

[Dave7]

They probably feel insecure. Or it could be they still love each other. Or maybe one has been playing away and wants to make it up again. Ain't really got a clue why you would want to do it twice.

My first thought was.......has one of them done the naughty and its a re-start.

 

[Drago]

Not for me. I made my vows, and if I really, truly meant every word then there is no need to renew.

If other people want to then be my guest.

 

[Joey Shabadoo]

Cake. Any excuse for cake is a good excuse. Some people even take up cycling for it!

 

[DaveReading]

My wife used to be a registrar and she has performed loads of renewal ceremonies.

Despite that, she refuses to answer my question as to when the original vows expire.

 

[figbat]

I’m also in the ‘why bother’ camp. If you want a party, have a party. If you want to reconfirm your feelings towards your partner, turn to them and say so. It’s like people who wish their partner happy birthday or whatever on Facebook... why not simply say it to them, why do we all need to know?

 

[sleuthey]

That occured on our CCs favourite show, Gavin and Stacey. Here is the ring:

 

[Deleted member 1258]

I’m also in the ‘why bother’ camp. If you want a party, have a party. If you want to reconfirm your feelings towards your partner, turn to them and say so. It’s like people who wish their partner happy birthday or whatever on Facebook... why not simply say it to them, why do we all need to know?

When I'm wishing people happy birthday on facebook those people are often too far way to wish them happy birthday personally, with my two sisters it about a 300 mile round trip to go and see them, our son is 90 miles away.

 

[Deleted member 1258]

We've never renewed our vows, though my Good Lady did have us have our rings blessed a few years ago.I always thought that renewing your vows was just a way of publicly showing your commitment each other.

 

[figbat]

When I'm wishing people happy birthday on facebook those people are often too far way to wish them happy birthday personally, with my two sisters it about a 300 mile round trip to go and see them, our son is 90 miles away.

Fair enough, however I was referring to people who gush about their immediate family, in the same house. I wish my wife happy birthday when we wake up, and perhaps a few more times during the day. I give her a card and maybe gift. I perhaps arrange a meal. I don’t run into the street and shout happy birthday nor post it on Facebook.

Same with our commitment to each other. I don’t need a ceremony or party to reaffirm it. I don’t need to somehow prove it and have it witnessed by others - I did that when we married and I meant it.

 

[welsh dragon]

Once was more than enough thanks.

 

[stephec]

Once was more than enough thanks.

© Mr WD 1952.

 

[cyberknight]

Not for me. I made my vows, and if I really, truly meant every word then there is no need to renew.

If other people want to then be my guest.

Its like folk who play around , i got married for a reason not so i could play the field .Caveat of course marriages do fail for many reasons but wandering eye shouldn't be one of them .