Should I ask the question?

[Young Un]

Well, I was in town withher last night, and I asked her, and she didn't really give me an answer and said that she needed to talk to some people first, and I knew at that time that it was a 99.99% chance of it being a no. By the time we left town she still hadn't given me an answer so I text her asking for one and she said:

'sorry for my stupid answer earlier, I feel really bad because I do really like you, but I don't think I can do this now, so sorry x x' And tbh I wasn't surprised at the answer one bit.

But there is a positive to this - I havent asked anyone properly before, and I was very suprised that I actually had the balls to ask her.

 

[Aperitif]

Good one Young Un - plenty more opportunities to follow...bide your time.

 

[Dayvo]

Well done, Young Un!

But don't despair! If she really likes you, then when she's more confident and less shy, she'll give you those signs, or even ask you out herself.

And don't give a fukk what those children here are saying, rise above it.

 

[Young Un]

Yeah, I mean I haven't lost anything from asking her, because we are going to stay friends, and she keeps saying 'ill keep talkin' which to me suggests that I still have a chance, so I am just taking the experience as a positive one.

 

[vernon]

Not long, I suspect. I hadn't attended any of the lectures because they were run by a very dull man indeed who used to dish out an A4 handout and then sit at the front of the class and read it out, word for word. For an hour. And the stats lectures were on a Monday morning. So when it came to the exam, I think I had a go at the first question before walking out.
Any idiot can get 0%, but 1% ... that's special.

This sounds sop much like my experience with my first year maths's course and exam.

The lecturer was exactly as you described so I took a 'sabbatical'. When I returned to the lectures a couple of terms later, I commented upon the change of lecturer only to be informed by a more conscientious friends that there had, in fact, been four lecturers. My fate was sealed....

6%

K.A. Stroud came to the rescue for my resit.

 

[Carwash]

Well done Young Un! That took guts. Sorry the answer wasn't quite what you wanted to hear.

 

[very-near]

Well, I was in town withher last night, and I asked her, and she didn't really give me an answer and said that she needed to talk to some people first, and I knew at that time that it was a 99.99% chance of it being a no. By the time we left town she still hadn't given me an answer so I text her asking for one and she said:

'sorry for my stupid answer earlier, I feel really bad because I do really like you, but I don't think I can do this now, so sorry x x' And tbh I wasn't surprised at the answer one bit.

But there is a positive to this - I havent asked anyone properly before, and I was very suprised that I actually had the balls to ask her.

Asking someone to be your girlfriend is something you do because you feel the need to formalise the relationship. This is all well and done, but at that stage of the game, most young ladies feel intimidated by that.

If you like this girl (or any other), and want to spend more time with her like going to the cinema, in to town on a saturday etc, then do sowithiout the formality.

If you both feel the same way after a period of time as friends, you will better know if there is more there than initial attraction.

I stopped asking girls out when I was 15 as I got fed up of being told 'no', but have not been out of a relationship for more than a couple of months since I was 16.

Try a different approach next time, it takes the pressure off both of you

 

[Kovu]

Well....I only ever do it as a childish insult - as playful banter. I never use gay as a truely derogatory term.

A suitable derogatory term is "woman"

*ducks and takes cover*

Well aren't you a treat.

 

[BigonaBianchi]

Takes real guts to ask someone out like that, I think she will realise you had more guts than she knew how to handle right now.

Sometimes you dont need to ask 'formally', just be, just do, just evolve. Be yourselves and reel her into you.

If all of that fails, grab her hard and **** her brains out

 

[Young Un]

Takes real guts to ask someone out like that, I think she will realise you had more guts than she knew how to handle right now.

Sometimes you dont need to ask 'formally', just be, just do, just evolve. Be yourselves and reel her into you.

If all of that fails, grab her hard and **** her brains out

yeah, the girl even mensioned in one of her later texts 'well you had bloody guts to ask me that cause i would never be able to do something like that'. But yeah, I think I am just going to stay good mates with her, get to know her a bit more and then perhaps ask her out to the cinema or sumthing and just see how it goes. But the more i think about it the more that I am glad that she actually said no, because, and I'll be honest, I don't think I could handle having a girlfriend

 

[montage]

yeah, the girl even mensioned in one of her later texts 'well you had bloody guts to ask me that cause i would never be able to do something like that'. But yeah, I think I am just going to stay good mates with her, get to know her a bit more and then perhaps ask her out to the cinema or sumthing and just see how it goes. But the more i think about it the more that I am glad that she actually said no, because, and I'll be honest, I don't think I could handle having a girlfriend

A wise un for such a young un

 

[snapper_37]

Well aren't you a treat.

Can I play .....

 

[snapper_37]

**Old man serious question alert**

Is calling someone gay as an insult acceptable? I had hoped youngsters nowadays might have moved on a bit...

Naaahhh Noodley. But usually it's 'ghey' or some other miss-spell. Another US import because the kids in the UK haven't got the brains to make their own insults.

The thing they don't realise, is that most homosexual/lesbian folks don't take it as an insult, so it's a bit stupid really.

 

[snapper_37]

If a gay person was to be called gay in a derogatory format to their face, then this would be insulting, however I knew Joe was not gay from his countless braggings about his future 16 children and girlfriend on this thread. If Joe has taken offense to being called gay, then let him inform me, if anybody else has taken personal offense to me using the word "gay" then also, inform me via pm. I have no problem with gays and never will, so me calling Jor gay is no worse than me calling him fat.

Nuff said.

Oh you have a lot to learn boy. Oh, sorry, is that derogatory???

I don't do pms.

Well, I do ... once a month.

 

[Joe24]

Me and my GF used to be like we were going out before we were. We went to the cinema alot before, and from September to End November( started going out on Dec 1st, there was a reason for this. Its a good day to remember so i dont forget when we started going out) we were together, just not offical.
She hinted to me one time she wanted to go to the cinema. She had a day off and she said she didnt know what to do and asked what i thought she should do. I said i didnt know then she said "I might go cinema, be on my own though"
I then said awwww, waited for abit then asked if she wanted to go with me
We went to see HSM3
I dont really have a problem with being called gay by the way. Mainly because if you met me in real life, you would realise that im really not gay. Unless i was taking the piss. In the photography exam i had last week the invidulator thought me and this other guy in 6th form were gay When ever anything went wrong we had a good hug
It is funny when i get called fat though, because i am pretty skinny, but im not a weed.
To be honest, i think your all gay for moaning about montage calling me gay as a joke. And i think your just hiding it secretly, but really, you are all somewhere on gaydar with fake names.
Having a GF isnt hard though really young un. Well its not with the one im with now. We dont see each other much, but when we do see each other its good. And when i go around to hers, i ride around there, and its a nice ride there aswell Her house is also in a place thats near hills, and that we pass on some club runs at the end, so if i ever need a top up of a drink or something im sorted
Get a girlfriend YC, but dont rush into it. Make sure it wont be hard to make work, and that you can actually talk easy.
Give her a while to test her out aswell