Shouting at someone else's kids

[summerdays]

I partly feel sorry for the Mum... she may be feeling guilty for not noticing herself. Also there are times when you can't rebuke them for everything (as I type I had to leave the keyboard to deal with WWIII developing in the bathroom - I'm suprised you couldn't hear the shouting from here of two teenage daughters!!!).

However I have told off other people's children when I feel they are in danger. Or one that I seem to notice a lot is 2-4 year olds a long way ahead of their parents on the pavement. To the extent I can't see the parents so I then have to stop and wait with them until I can see a grown up. I'm female and also figure that with the bike they would think I couldn't kidnap their child but still don't stand very close to them.

 

[summerdays]

Another problem I have is when I have "advised" a child I know that they didn't cross the road safely - whether I should inform the parents or not (talking about the 9-12 age range).

As a parent I don't object to others telling off my kids as necessary but hope they don't have to.

 

[summerdays]

the "choose your arguments" concept

Yes better way of saying you can't rebuke them for everything.

Then there are the families who let their children run wild -like running up your stairs, going through cupbpards, jumping on beds etc. I have no problem at all telling them off, and care little what their parents think about it.

With my last child I used to meet up with a couple of friends, one of which never rebuked her children. They would steal biscuits, raid any cupboard, pour bubble bath all over the bathroom, throw marbles around the room. The mum would sit there and say "don't do that", then carry on talking and they would carry on misbehaving. It got to the point I wouldn't invite them to my house and stopped going to hers, and only ever saw them at mutual friends houses. Eventually lost touch with them.

 

[rich p]

RACIST!!!
Its Inuit.

When I was in Vancouver Island last year, they were known as First Nationers as Inuit was not considered appropriate. Keep up, Joe

 

[Piemaster]

RACIST!!!
Its Inuit.

No it isn't.
link
(Something I vaguely remembered from watching QI.

 

[Joe24]

When I was in Vancouver Island last year, they were known as First Nationers as Inuit was not considered appropriate. Keep up, Joe

im so behind im uncool

 

[dellzeqq]

chasing pigeons is what kids do. It keeps the kids and the pigeons fit. Catapults and stones are even more fun, but not good in crowds of people.

I've got a photograph of the kid, running, actually in midair as she leaps forward, chasing pigeons in Venice. It's on the wall, and I've never given the pigeons a second thought. They're a species we could do without.

 

[Brahan]

Sorry but I think that shouting at a kid for chasing pigeons is out of order. With regards to it being 'mean' I'm pretty sure they could have flown off at any point. If you shouted at my kid for it I'd have to have a word with you and ask what good you think shouting at kids does. I'm not shy to tell other parents' kid off, I do it but not for such a petty matter.

So yes I agree that you should never be afraid to tell a kid off but maybe consider what for.

Anyway who cares for pigeons?

 

[Joe24]

Now, feeding pigeons yeast. That's a different matter.

Is that the thing that makes them explode because they cant fart?

 

[Arch]

My grouse (geddit?) with kids chasing pigeons is that sometimes it ends up with the pigeons flapping up into other people's faces - not nice, esp if you happen to have a fear/dislike of flappy birds, which I think is moderately common. So it's not that it's cruel to pigeons, it's antisocial, like splashing water on people or snowballing them (unless they are in your game by choice).

Up to a certain age, I don't think you can expect a kid to understand that - I'm just not sure what that age is.

 

[TheDoctor]

I agree - it's most unpheasant.

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[Arch]

On the subject of shouting at other people's kidsd - I think if they are being a real nuisance, or endangering themselves or others, fair enough. Probably nice of you can go through an opening "telling them nicely" phase, but for speed, shouting works.

haivng said that, I'm not sure if I ever would - either I'd be afraid of parental ranting, or I'd just block out whatever they were doing...

Had a sort of reverse thing like that the other day - in Sainsburiys I was heading down an aisle and a kid was next to his parents but whirling round like a dervish, arms outstretched, so I couldn't get by, and was doing that side step dance thing you do when trying to pass someone who keeps moving. His Dad seemed quite embarrassed and cross with the kid, I just thought it was funny. I wasn't in a hurry, and it was hilarious as I finally went on to hear the now still kid whining "I'm dizzy!" I said something light hearted like "He'll learn!" but they just grumped off...

 

[Cubist]

Is that the thing that makes them explode because they cant fart?

No Joe, you're still getting confused. Polar Indiginous first Nation peoples can't fart. Fact. I don't know what would happen if you fed them yeast. I never feed pigeons with yeast. I think it might give them thrush.

 

[Sh4rkyBloke]

No Joe, you're still getting confused. Polar Indiginous first Nation peoples can't fart. Fact. I don't know what would happen if you fed them yeast. I never feed pigeons with yeast. I think it might give them thrush.

Looks like everyone has been robin Maz's puns.

 

[BigonaBianchi]

i think if the situation warrants it is totaly cool.

One old man once saved my sons life by shouting at him.