If your existing bikes fit nicely, measure their stack and reach and look for similar numbers in a gravel bike.
Just remember that reach is for the frame only, you then get extra reach from the stem (which will often change a bit depending on whether flipped upwards or downwards) and the bars (especially on drop bars).
My road bike ("58cm" Cube Attain GTC Disc) is 388mm reach, 610mm stack, with -30 degree 110mm stem and ~&5mm reach bars.
My gravel ebike (med GT eGrde Bolt) is 405mm reach and 577mm stack, with a 90mm stem and ~80mm bars reach. I'm tempted to try a 100/110mm stem to stretch me out a bit more for the aero gains.
