Slowed down by the Mrs

Discussion in 'Commuting' started by bianco, 6 Nov 2007.

  1. bianco

    bianco New Member

    Well, first of all I'm well chuffed the Mrs is riding to work, as we now both work at the same place. She's gonna start losing weight and become a fitter, healthier person.

    However, she's not incredibly road aware, and relies upon me to block traffic so they don't drive too near. She cycles at a very leisurely 10mph average, and can't make it up any hills.

    I don't want to discourage her from cycling, yet I can't stand it taking forever to get too and from work. I feel like I'm going to loose my pretty good 20mph average. Luckily its only for 3 months then her shift changes permanantly till 6am - 2pm.

    Help me Mr's and Mrs's on what I should do.


    Mr. Bianco
  2. fossyant

    fossyant Ride It Like You Stole It!

    South Manchester
    You follow her, then go out for an extra few miles...... 'cos you both can't use the shower at the same time...oh yes you can....but that's not for here :biggrin:
  3. Dayvo

    Dayvo Just passin' through

    It's quite easy really: ride at her pace.

    Her confidence will increase, as will her awareness of traffic and situations. Bullying or coaxing her into cycling at a pace beyond her safety zone will make her feel uncomfortable to say the least. It's better to be patient and have a cycling partner, than to scare her off for good.

    Patience, bianco, patience! :biggrin:
  4. RedBike

    RedBike New Member

    Beside the road
    Get a tandem.
  5. Tim Bennet.

    Tim Bennet. Entirely Average Member

    S of Kendal
    Discuss with her about when she 'goes solo' in three months time.

    What is she concerned about, how can you help with that, etc?

    It might be that she would like some adult riding lessons or a week in Spain with the bikes enjoying some warm weather riding that would boost both her fitness and confidence.

    But nurture what you have got. As Davyo says, any riding is better than none.
  6. gbb

    gbb Legendary Member

    I'm in a similar position...torn between enjoying the wifes new found interest with me, with all its other health benefits...and struggling with the 'steady' rides.
    To be fair, she motors along at 15 mph quite happily, struggles with the hills a bit, but overall does ok. She will improve, as will your wife bianco.

    Slightly different for me, i just enjoy the steady rides, then make up for it on solo rides, or as fossyant says, put in that extra mileage on the end.

    I wouldnt worry too much about loss of fitness. If i have a month of little time on the bike, i worry i'm going to struggle. Yet when i do go out, i seem to have more vigour. Maybe not the speed...but i do feel more refreshed.
  7. neslon

    neslon Well-Known Member

    The Toon
    ride an MTB with proper knobbly tires - that'll slow you down and you'll still get a work out. Or do what I do when out with the growler - drive out early with the bike on the car, ride home, then ride out with her to the car, put her & the bike on & carry on on the bike. Works if you aren't in London.
  8. LordoftheTeapot

    LordoftheTeapot Veteran

    Thats what we did. Great fun. Although we found a tandam trike better, especially in slow moving traffic. :biggrin:
  9. Arch

    Arch Married to Night Train

    Salford, UK
    What Dayvo said.

    And have you got a copy of Cyclecraft? If not, get one and go through it together. You'll be able to highlight parts that apply to your route, and get her to think about how you tackle them...
  10. dondare

    dondare Über Member

    Buy her a really good lightweight and yourself a steel-framed roadster with 2.5 inch tyres.
  11. cupoftea

    cupoftea New Member

    Get a fat tired bike, put a wing mirror on it and get her to follow you.

    She'll get used to following your lines and she'll also try and keep up.

    If you see that she's struggling, drop back behind her, if everytime she rides her bike it becomes a training session she'll stop going.

    Make it fun
  12. wafflycat

    wafflycat New Member

    middle of Norfolk
    Wot he sed.


    Buy her a present or two that shows you really care: cycle training.
    Get her a copy of Cyclecraft for some suitable bedtime reading

    Most of all - do *not* whinge about her lack of speed, as that's going to likely make her feel inadequate, uselss and put her off. Consider yourself lucky that you have such a caring spouse, as if you tried that whinging with me, you'd be suffering, my good man... *suffering* in all sorts of ways a wife can make a man *really suffer* :biggrin::biggrin:

    Instead: ecourage, encourage, encourage, encourage and develop *patience*
  13. Maggot

    Maggot Guest

    Bianco, it's all been said. You have to ride at her pace, just behind her if that is what she wants, until she has the confidence to do it herself.

    I'm sure it's probably happened before to somebody, but what are you going to do when she begins to pull away because she has found some inner Victoria Pendleton:ohmy:

    Mrs Maggot and I go out together, and we keep together in all but going downhill raving bonkers fast, she hates that, so I just wait at the bottom.
  14. gbb

    gbb Legendary Member

    Christ, i just wet scare the pants off me, and i dont even know you :biggrin::biggrin::biggrin:
  15. wafflycat

    wafflycat New Member

    middle of Norfolk
    Consider the life of my poor husband! :biggrin:

    My poor husband is actually the sweetest of men. He's bought me all of my steeds, does all my bike maintenance, and doesn't mind if I just up and out on my bike for the day. Love him to bits :biggrin:
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