Some Peeepole!

[Puddles]

If I got rid of 30 names I would have about 0 friends on Facebook!

When you move with the Army about every 2 years you meet lots of people, then add family, then add all the people hubby knows from being here there & everywhere with army and it adds up to lots!

 

[Arch]

BTW, NT and I were out with my sister and got talking to a chap who is Dad to one of my nephews' little friends and he was bragging about how he and his wife only got married for a tax break, and to shut her mother up, and the whole thing cost £600.

We looked at each other and thought "There's our target to beat then!"

I've blown a bit (but a tiny amount compared to most) on an outfit already, and the major expense will be the cost of the licence and registry office room, which we'll go for the cheapest possible. The party will be cheap, or possibly free, since I work there, and we'll get guests to bring food or skills to the reception.

It's about the promise and commitment, not the party and the dress and the 'day'.

I know a chap whose daughter and her childhood sweetheart married after being together for 10 years or more, since school. All flew out to Mauritius, wedding on the beach etc. Cost a fortune.

6 months later, they split up.

 

[Night Train]

It's about the promise and commitment, not the party and the dress and the 'day'.

For me I have essentially 'made my vows and promises' to Arch already in the most important way to me. I have told family and friends that I love her and I want to spend my life with her.

Everything else is really just a legal technicality, and an excuse to have a party with cake!

 

[Frood42]

The internet is filled with all sorts of people and some people you really do have to spell things out for as they can take things far too seriously...

So I have just made it a habit to add a smiley of some sort if I am being cheeky or whatever on faceache or another internet forum.
I tend to avoid acronyms though where I can, my english is bad enough without doing all of that...

 

[Archie_tect]

Puddles, mindful that it's someone your husband knows, imagine whether you'd feel comfortable saying, what you write on FB, straight to someone's face, when it's not even someone you know but your husband does/... does that help you understand their reaction to what you wrote? I only use FB to keep in touch with friends and close family, so I only have them as contacts so they already know me.

 

[Leodis]

see if I have any blah blah

Is that Sheep code?

I would have given back, some muppet spending their Asda wages on a wedding they cannot afford and moaning on it. I had one yesterday, moaning about how his ex. will not let him and his girlfriend see his kids and how much money the CSA was taking from him yada yada yada... Felt like saying something but really couldnt be bothered.

I tell you want annoys me about facebook, its the constant freaks pasting pictures of their kids online, its like the world of paedos are not out there. I don't think there is one picture of my neices online, why would you want to do that? Broken Britain.

 

[Fnaar]

I use facebook a lot, and I enjoy it. I use it mostly for keeping in touch with family/relatives overseas, and contacts I have professionally (but only those who have become friends in the real world) and contacts I have through my keen interest in music (in the last year, I have added people I have never met, but I communicate with regularly).
What do I post? Music mostly, fave tracks/unusual tracks that I know my friends will enjoy. Photos... none of my kids, or even Mrs F, but ones I've taken of cycling, countryside, etc.
I don't put comments about what I'm having for dinner, moan about my job, or that leak in the bathroom etc. Just stuff I think people will like. And that is largely what most of my friends do, apart from one who appears to be drinking far too much and posting rants from his local pub, which is worrying.
HOWEVER.... I'm amazed by two things.... I count myself as a fairly typical middle-aged, middle class bloke (these days, anyway), reasonably intelligent and able to sort out privacy settings... there are a lot of friends (same demographic as me) who have FB accounts, but spend all their time moaning about it, and saying to me 'blimey, you actually use it? why?' etc etc. So I tell them what I've told you, and then I say simply, look, if you don't like it, don't have an account. Simples.
The second thing that amazes me is the number of peeps (again same demographic as me) who have not worked out their privacy settings. I've seen photos of the children/weddings/barmitzvahs etc etc of 'friends of friends' who I have no connection with. Not stalking them, just sometimes 'click through' just as a test.... a woman who lives locally, who I kind of know, but not friends on FB, has a photo up of herself sunbathing topless in her back yard. I'm sure she'd be shocked if she realised complete strangers could see it.
So three things...
1) If you don't like it, don't use it
2) Sort yer privacy settings out
3) I'm perfect.

[edit: I haven't joined the CC FB either, as then you would know my real name, and I would have to kill you]

 

[Leodis]

has a photo up of herself sunbathing topless in her back yard

Photo or it hasnt happened.

I haven't joined the CC FB either, as then you would know my real name, and I would have to kill you

Not many Alfreds up norf

 

[Arch]

Photo or it hasnt happened.



Not many Alfreds up norf

Well, I know at least one...

 

[Puddles]

Puddles, mindful that it's someone your husband knows, imagine whether you'd feel comfortable saying, what you write on FB, straight to someone's face, when it's not even someone you know but your husband does/... does that help you understand their reaction to what you wrote? I only use FB to keep in touch with friends and close family, so I only have them as contacts so they already know me.

Yep would feel fine saying what I did to someones face as I said I don't know him know him I have never met him in person, but he felt comfortable enough to message me on face ache before asking could I possibly make him some biscuits that he had shared with hubby when they were on a job together as he really liked them, and also send the recipe with them so his GF could try them and if she liked them too make them oh and when there was some comment on my fb about going strawberry picking he happened to be working with hubby that night, he commented asking if I could pick a punnet for him & he would give Mr Puddles the money when he saw him that night... so to me if you are going feel it is acceptable to be that familiar with someone you do not know (BTW it is obvious to all on facebook it is me not Mr Puddles on there - I always type Mr Puddles says... if it is him) then I think it is acceptable to make a comment about something they have written about - obviously that was wrong

Oh & I should point out I am not upset by this, I rarely get upset about trivial stuff, its more a musing type thing really, or a ah thats how we are supposed to be, or to get others points of view

 

[Archie_tect]

OK.

 

[Doseone]

Someone on the radio the other day said that the chances of a marriage surviving were inversely proportional to the amount spent on the wedding.

 

[ThinAir]

Sneak back in about 2 weeks time and put 'it won't last, and I'm taking bets'

You 4king hero. That is all.

 

[Sandra6]

Some people are overly sensitive and should probably refrain from posting on facebook.
I would've said about the same thing about the cost of weddings.
What does it cost for a registrar these days? Couple of hundred quid? See, that's how cheap it can be. Anything else is an extra surely?!

 

[Arch]

Some people are overly sensitive and should probably refrain from posting on facebook.
I would've said about the same thing about the cost of weddings.
What does it cost for a registrar these days? Couple of hundred quid? See, that's how cheap it can be. Anything else is an extra surely?!

The very least you can pay is:

£35 each for giving notice.
£49 fee for the marriage.

and then the fee for the room at the register office. In York there are three options - a room with space for 2 guests (IE just witnesses) for £49, a room with space for 8 guests for £110 Mon-Fri, and £150 Fri-Sat, and a larger room that will seat 50, for £200 Mon-Thurs, and £280 Fri-Sat..

So the very least you could pay is £168. (I think, unless the £49 quoted for the smallest space is the same £49 as the cost of the marriage, I'm not sure from the website.) We'll probably want more than 2 guests just to get my family in...

Fees

Some fees are set nationally by the Registrar General and are currently £35 each for giving notice. The fee to marry at a Register Office in England or Wales is £49 (£45 + £4 for certificate).
When making a provisional booking there is a non-refundable charge of £50. The £50 will be deducted from the fee for the ceremony.
From 1 January 2013 until 31 December 2013.
The register office is available Monday to Thursday and has a guest limit of 2 and costs £49.
We also offer two rooms in the Bootham Suite:

• The larger room will seat 50 comfortably and costs £200 Monday to Thursday and £280 on Friday and Saturday.
• The smaller room is upstairs and has a guest limit of 8. It costs £110 Monday to Thursday and £150 Friday and Saturday.

The fee for attending approved venues is:

• £450 Monday to Thursday
• £525 Friday and Saturday
• £575 Sundays and Bank Holidays

Note that to have a registrar come to another venue is over £400 - it could be a mere five minute walk away!