SWMBO

[Peteaud]

Myself and Mrs aud share the bills, then what she has left over is hers, what i have is mine.

 

[Bobby Mhor]

A marriage is a partnership, a bit of give and take is needed on both sides.

Yeah I have, she takes....simple

 

[theclaud]

If genders were reversed in the op's swmbo example I'm sure people would be up in arms about how the husband is domineering, chauvinistic, etc... And whilst each individual should live how they want to, the whole swmbo, asking before spending my own money thing strikes me as misandric cr@p.

Hilarious. You do know "SWMBO" is not real, right? It's not about actual women. It's a mildly misogynistic caricature painted by men to rationalize their own choices.

 

[skudupnorth]

Its not under the thumb as such but a joint respect that we are going out to play on our bikes/require new bits or just fancy the latest bike in the shop and we see if it is possible at that time. I have four daughters so me buggering off for the day with café stops and treats without the sound of "please can I have" from our off-spring requires a bit of give and take. As for finances, all our money goes in one pot, no separate accounts or "this is mine", "this is yours" type thing. It works for us but maybe not for everybody.

 

[400bhp]

I see this a lot on here. SWMBO. She who must be obeyed.

I read comments about having got permission to go out, to buy a bike, to whatever whatever...

Are guys really so under the thumb??

Come on chaps...don't let them get away with it...we have a right to be men....

Do you work?

Do you have any family?

Would you stick two fingers up to the above and do what the feck you like when you liked?

Doubt it. You are constrained by the shackles of life my fella-just like everyone else.

 

[nickyboy]

^^^^^
This is the way to go.

Funny enough I was thinking about this the other day. If me and mrs p divorced she would get half of everything (house, furniture etc...) so why shouldn't a couple split everything 50/50 when paying for it and then enjoy their own respective left over salary how they wish.

If genders were reversed in the op's swmbo example I'm sure people would be up in arms about how the husband is domineering, chauvinistic, etc... And whilst each individual should live how they want to, the whole swmbo, asking before spending my own money thing strikes me as misandric cr@p.

So what happens when the wife stops working to look after the kids (Mrs Nickyboy did this) or only returns to work part-time (Mrs Nickyboy is doing this)? Wife earns nothing or not much. Our different viewpoint seems to be that I don't regard the money I earn as "my own money", rather it is the family's money.

 

[Pikey]

Hilarious. You do know "SWMBO" is not real, right? It's not about actual women. It's a mildly misogynistic caricature painted by men to rationalize their own choices.

Lol, I hope so!
currently pissed as a lord, so my judgement and humour may be impaired.

Tried to warm the cockles after my ride this eve with rum, guess they were colder than I thought.

 

[Pikey]

So what happens when the wife stops working to look after the kids (Mrs Nickyboy did this) or only returns to work part-time (Mrs Nickyboy is doing this)? Wife earns nothing or not much. Our different viewpoint seems to be that I don't regard the money I earn as "my own money", rather it is the family's money.

Ah well that is a different situation isn't it.

As the bread winner, your family is your responsibility financially under those circumstances as the other partner does not have an income if they are caring for the children.

 

[Mr Haematocrit]

I don't ask, I don't tell, I do

 

[400bhp]

"our own money"

 

[shouldbeinbed]

I occasionally refer to Mrs SBIB on tinternet, on very rare occasions introduce her in real life as the current Mrs SBIB (just to keep her on her toes, cos I'm a real catch me y'know)

We both work, I earn more, have always done so by dint of us having 3 children, starting quite young and in less even times when paternity leave roughly equated to: Your wife is in labour and you want the WHOLE afternoon off?????

I am perfectly happy we have a joint account and joint call on it, we do talk about bigger purchases and when to do them & I will back off from something I want and could pay for entirely out of my overtime if there's something more jointly helpful or it is a pure selfish indulgence, each to their own but that's the basis of marriage to me, we're a meeting of equals regardless of what bits of money, early parenting or whatever we put into the pot.
We have pals who can spend five minutes negotiating or trading at the end of a meal out about splitting their share of the bill between themselves or if one pays for it all then the other will put some petrol in the car to pay it back. I love them to bits but I could never wish such trivial strife on myself.

 

[vernon]

I pronounce it "swimbo" much quicker that S.W.M.B.O.

As in
A SWMBO way a SWMBO way
A SWMBO way a SWMBO way
In the jungle the mighty jungle
The lion sleeps tonight?

 

[vernon]

Ha ha...ok...

Of course a relationship with joint finances etc is a two way thing...sheesh...get with the humour peeps...I did that for 31 years...I know the drill..

I just wonder why the 'obeying' comes into it....never did that.

Your failure to recognise the need to obey when it's truly needed might account for the disarray in your life.

I know when my pocket Ayatollah means business and a challenge to one of her fatwahs means deep misery and regrets.

I can count the the number of fatwahs on both of my thumbs. My challenges amount to zero.

I am a happy man.

 

[vernon]

Of course a truly wise man can head off trouble at the pass.

A prelude to a fatwah and it's disarmament:

Ayatollah: How long have we been married?
Me: Not long enough.

Caution! Save this as your best shot. It's a single use missile.

 

[Beebo]

As in
A SWMBO way a SWMBO way
A SWMBO way a SWMBO way
In the jungle the mighty jungle
The lion sleeps tonight?

Song by Tight Fit, a bit like your cycling tops!!