Tea? (Part 2)

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Lullabelle

Banana
Location
Midlands UK
All the same, on a dark night...

Someone near us doesn't put the blind down when he stands in the shower, there are just some things you don't want to see
 

Lullabelle

Banana
Location
Midlands UK
That is what she was saying.

However, I 'should' get myself some work and earn some money. It isn't a preference as I would prefer not to but I will eventually loose my benefit income and then put undue financial stress on those I love.
I 'need' to feel useful without feeling like I am being used. I 'need' to sort my head out before it gets too much for me to deal with.

What I am saying is that right now I feel I should be getting myself in a position where I don't need to feel I should have to, and I need to get myself better before there is no more 'me' to get better.
Take the 'should' away and I will stop bothering. Take the 'need' away and I won't need therapy.
Argue semantics with me every time I open my mouth and I will walk away before I have got to the bottom of why I feel like this and nothing will be achieved.

Often I feel like I am hanging on [the edge of a cliff], just, by my finger tips and I could do with a rope throwing down, not a discussion about the type of rope or a lesson in tying knots.
"Just throw the bloody rope before I slip off!"

" Just hear me out before you tell me what you think of my vocabulary."
Chucking me out when I was about to :cry: didn't help. :sad:


Sorry for that, really needed to vent a bit but had to hold it together to get the plastering done.
Done two walls and a ceiling. The other two walls can be done on Saturday.:thumbsup:

She doesn't sound very supportive, I know they can only go so far but she should be guiding you not pointing out the obvious. :hugs: you will get there NT
 

Lullabelle

Banana
Location
Midlands UK
Hi Potsy :hello:

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coffeejo

Ælfrēd
Location
West Somerset
That is what she was saying.

However, I 'should' get myself some work and earn some money. It isn't a preference as I would prefer not to but I will eventually loose my benefit income and then put undue financial stress on those I love.
I 'need' to feel useful without feeling like I am being used. I 'need' to sort my head out before it gets too much for me to deal with.

What I am saying is that right now I feel I should be getting myself in a position where I don't need to feel I should have to, and I need to get myself better before there is no more 'me' to get better.
Take the 'should' away and I will stop bothering. Take the 'need' away and I won't need therapy.
Argue semantics with me every time I open my mouth and I will walk away before I have got to the bottom of why I feel like this and nothing will be achieved.

Often I feel like I am hanging on [the edge of a cliff], just, by my finger tips and I could do with a rope throwing down, not a discussion about the type of rope or a lesson in tying knots.
"Just throw the bloody rope before I slip off!"

" Just hear me out before you tell me what you think of my vocabulary."
Chucking me out when I was about to :cry: didn't help. :sad:


Sorry for that, really needed to vent a bit but had to hold it together to get the plastering done.
Done two walls and a ceiling. The other two walls can be done on Saturday.:thumbsup:
:hugs:

Put a pin in how you feel and give yourselves time to get used to one another. It might be that you don't click but it could also be that she'll need you to help her get to know you and how you work. Not that I'm saying you're an awkward customer or anything. :thumbsup:

And ditto the time running out at the :cry: stage. Happens to me a lot - a friend of mine is a counsellor and she says it's horrible when sessions end like that and she's torn between wanting to carry on to help but also aware that she needs to write up the notes so that she can pick up for next time, and prepare for the next person coming in, and give herself the time to get her head together again. I don't know how anyone does that job.
 

Lullabelle

Banana
Location
Midlands UK
:hugs:

Put a pin in how you feel and give yourselves time to get used to one another. It might be that you don't click but it could also be that she'll need you to help her get to know you and how you work. Not that I'm saying you're an awkward customer or anything. :thumbsup:

And ditto the time running out at the :cry: stage. Happens to me a lot - a friend of mine is a counsellor and she says it's horrible when sessions end like that and she's torn between wanting to carry on to help but also aware that she needs to write up the notes so that she can pick up for next time, and prepare for the next person coming in, and give herself the time to get her head together again. I don't know how anyone does that job.

Can't be easy. Could you try with someone else? I spent 2 sessions with someone and it didn't work out so I tried someone else and she was an absolute diamond and helped me a great deal
 

Speicher

Vice Admiral
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As Lullabelle says above, it might be that you do not get on with the counsellor. Both times that I started counselling, the first session was a sort of "What I hope to achieve/talk about/progress with etc", rather than the semantics of words I was using. Are these sessions limited to six weeks, as it used to be within the NHS?
 

Arch

Married to Night Train
Location
Salford, UK
Here is some Art:

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We think one of the dinosaurs is attacking the other with a view to eating it, but we're afraid to ask...

NT, do you have the photo of the tree drawing?

It's very good, with a hint of Clarice Cliff about it. His drawing is really very good, I think, for a 5 year old. I know I'm a doting old auntie, but he takes a lot of care over his drawings. He's very keen on doing dinosaurs of course, and often in that sort of landscape with receding hills. He seems to be good at copying concepts he's seen in other pictures - perspectives and views from unusual angles and so on.

Max is, of course, still at the scribble stage, but he tries.

NT and I are invited to a wedding next month, to be held under the skeleton of T Rex at a museum in Manchester. I must tell Oli!
 
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