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Motobecane

Motobecane

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Mo1959 said:
No posts today yet...........still as quiet in here then. Oh well I'll say top of the morning to you all. Already had an early tootle and breakfast. Probably have a donder before lunch then over to visit dad.

Step mum has been back and forward between hospitals and care homes and I have been busy visiting so haven't been on much. Latest is hospital phoned dad to say she had fallen out of bed this morning and was away for an xray, then phone rings again and she had managed to get hold of a phone and was phoning him to say she was demanding to get home immediately. I think she is losing the plot. No way dad can put up with her like that as she falls very easily and if her mental health is also going he would never cope. He's barely shuffling about himself.

She thinks I am hard and selfish because I don't want to go over there and be his live in carer. Usual..........unmarried daughter seems to be expected to sacrifice their own lives to care for others while the rest of the family carry on oblivious. Well, I am going to be selfish. I didn't work in a difficult and stressful job for 26 years to give up the best years of my retirement. Am I being unreasonable?
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I don't think you are. You say 'step mum'. Did she bring you up, if you don't mind me asking?
 
Motobecane

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Maverick Goose said:
Our Mr Tickle worked at L'Enclume in Cartmel for 9 years so pretty serious Michelin star background.:reading: Afternoon y'all!:okay:
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Wonderful. I want to visit! Are you going to be prepping the food?
 
Motobecane

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172traindriver

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Mo1959 said:
No posts today yet...........still as quiet in here then. Oh well I'll say top of the morning to you all. Already had an early tootle and breakfast. Probably have a donder before lunch then over to visit dad.

Step mum has been back and forward between hospitals and care homes and I have been busy visiting so haven't been on much. Latest is hospital phoned dad to say she had fallen out of bed this morning and was away for an xray, then phone rings again and she had managed to get hold of a phone and was phoning him to say she was demanding to get home immediately. I think she is losing the plot. No way dad can put up with her like that as she falls very easily and if her mental health is also going he would never cope. He's barely shuffling about himself.

She thinks I am hard and selfish because I don't want to go over there and be his live in carer. Usual..........unmarried daughter seems to be expected to sacrifice their own lives to care for others while the rest of the family carry on oblivious. Well, I am going to be selfish. I didn't work in a difficult and stressful job for 26 years to give up the best years of my retirement. Am I being unreasonable?
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No you aren't Mo.
It's a very difficult thing to cope with and it's extremely difficult when it's your family. I had it with my mum, and left it to carers and then finally a nursing home. Visiting was an awful experience so I could never have coped with caring also and with my job to consider.
 
welsh dragon

welsh dragon

Thanks but no thanks. I think I'll pass.
172traindriver said:
Afternoon Mrs D
Like a hob nob then?
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As always
 
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