The bum question and honesty

[Smokin Joe]

You could try, "No of course it's not big. It just looks like that because you're old now and it's starting to sag".

 

[slowmotion]

I operate a strict policy of dishonesty.

 

[Arrowfoot]

I operate a strict policy of dishonesty.

In that case, your marriage will last.

 

[ufkacbln]

A loaded question if ever there was one. As a husband of many years standing, there is no right answer. If you say no, the lady in question will of already made her mind up, and disagree . If you say yes it it enormous, that dress does not suit you, you are doomed. Be brave, and run away.

Alternative 1:

Husband : " No dear, it looks fine"
Wife:" No it doesn't - it looks awful, you don't care how I look"

Alternative 2:
Husband: "I am afraid that it does"
Wife: " I like it, you have absolutely no taste and I am buying it"

 

[robjh]

As my dear mum used to say "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all".
I take this to mean that if you say something to make someone feel good about themselves, then that's perfectly acceptable, whether it's a little white lie or not

But if you ask the question and get a stony silence, that might not seem the best thing.

 

[perplexed]

Sure enough my wife asked me the bum question, you know "Do you think I have a big bum?" there are variations like "Does my bum look big in this?" for instance. Of course I answered "No dear" which in my experience is always the best/only answer. To be honest I never give it a lot of thought because this way trouble lurks. I just feign consideration with a slight pause.
Am I being dishonest or just protecting my best interest - or?

I think what you need to do is to take lots of photos in various garments of attire and post them for our serious deliberations...

 

[subaqua]

she doesn'rt ask as she knows it looks big in anything . because it is.

 

[MontyVeda]

A good honest answer is 'your bum looks big in everything'.

 

[Fnaar]

Just tell her you've applied to get her butt its own postcode.

 

[wam68]

How about saying well it's not bad but i've seen better?

 

[Markymark]

It's very difficult to tell when you're sat on my face.

 

[stephec]

It's very difficult to tell when you're sat on my face.

It's obviously not if you can still breathe.

 

[stephec]

My answer was -

Why do you want a skinny little arse? Yours is a proper womanly shape, nice and rounded.

I think I got away with it.

If that doesn't work then you could always add -

Skinny women are alright to look at every now and then, but not as much fun to play with.

 

[Tin Pot]

What a sexist thread.

 

[ayceejay]

I think I/m going to pass on most of these suggestions but thanks anyway
I did try the honest approach once and I said " Yes you have a big bum but I like it" which is true
but my advice is DON'T TRY THIS AT HOME.
Do you really?
It's not TOO big is it?
Has it always been big?
Would you still love me if I had a small bum?

and so on.....