It is often the way of things.
Mrs
@BoldonLad has a brother who is. "a problem". He lived with his parents, until they died, so, reached the age of 50 without ever leaving home. He works (retires next year), but, does not "function" too well in many ways, cannot deal with most aspects of modern life (technology), or money management, or, even mundane things like grocery shopping. After parents died, Mrs
@BoldonLad "took on the burden", while the other seven (yes, seven) watched from the sidelines. A few years ago, Mrs
@BoldonLad's health deteriorated somewhat, and, it all fell to me. There are times when I need a break, the only person who ever "helps out" is another in-law (the wife of one of Mrs
@BoldonLad's brothers).
My own fault I suppose, I just cannot stand by and watch someone's life unravel.