The Retirement Thread

[Paulus]

Good morning world.
No rain down here, the sun is out and is already warm.
Wordle in 3
The washing machine will be in full use today. The bedding which was only changed a few days back needs washing again.

Daisy, the black and white cat came in yesterday evening and we didn't notice at the time that a piece of one of her ears was missing. She has bled all over the duvet cover and pillow cases.

Other than that, dog walking, bike riding, gardening, and general messing
about are the order of the day.

 

[Deleted member 1258]

We tried a care package but we have to pay and at £1,200+ per month we decided to battle on and just pay a cleaner to blitz things 1/2 day a week.

Ouch! Thats more than my monthly income, we don't pay for the care package, not enough income, if we did we'd struggle.

 

[Dave7]

Ouch! Thats more than my monthly income, we don't pay for the care package, not enough income, if we did we'd struggle.

Yes, I have mixed feelings that can change by the day.
Like many I worked all my life (50+years) and paid my nhs so begrudge having to pay now that we need it. On the other hand many people worked equally hard but don't have a healthy bank balance.
Don't know the answer to that.

 

[PaulSB]

I've got mixed feelings on this, on the one hand its lovely to see her well again and home, on the other hand I enjoyed last week on my own, the previous week wasn't good, but once she was on the mend I could relax a bit, I've been told the care package is going to be the same as we had in place before she went in hospital.

I think this is understandable. I have never had to care for my wife in the way you do but I do enjoy the solitude and doing as I wish on the occasions she goes away for a few weeks. Out of your love and care for Mrs D you are giving 24 hours a day, there is very little "me time," so it is entirely natural you would enjoy the chance to relax and I for one am glad you did. I know very little about these things but have in the past tried to help friends who were under a lot of pressure for reasons and I've always urged them to find "me time." A few years back I was helping a friend who suffered from full blown depression, I promised her I would not talk to anyone about this, the pressure and worry I felt was crushing as I didn't know if the support I tried to offer was appropriate - I quickly learned the importance of "caring for the carer" and "me time." Someone who guessed what was happening said to me "You're good for her" - the relief was enormous.

Could you ask for more Social Services support, let them know any strain you feel, suggest you are finding it difficult to cope/can't do everything? Could an immediate neighbour take phone duties for 2-3 hours while you grab a ride? Apologies if I'm intrusive, just a few thoughts which came to me.

 

[glasgowcyclist]

Is this a regular thing in Glasgow? Is it by chance at a national chain or an enterprising independent? I'd be interested in seeing some of these old movies on the big screen.

It‘s an independent cinema called the GFT (Glasgow Film Theatre), a limited company with charitable status. They do all sorts of high quality cinema, international films, restored classics etc. https://glasgowfilm.org/what-we-do

 

[Mo1959]

Ouch! Thats more than my monthly income, we don't pay for the care package, not enough income, if we did we'd struggle.

Do you get a carer's allowance? If not, I'm sure you would be entitled to it.

That's the rain on now Oh well, a lazy day methinks.

 

[Dirk]

Morning all

Off to Barnstaple this morning for a spot of retail.
Will see if I can get the lawns cut later.

 

[Deleted member 1258]

Yes, I have mixed feelings that can change by the day.
Like many I worked all my life (50+years) and paid my nhs so begrudge having to pay now that we need it. On the other hand many people worked equally hard but don't have a healthy bank balance.
Don't know the answer to that.

I don't think there is an answer to that.

 

[Tenkaykev]

Good morning folks,
Finally managed to catch up all the posts that I missed. In Edinburgh at the moment, a lovely lunch at Hendersons yesterday was followed by a pilgrimage to Cloisters for a few beers. Missed the bus so ended up in the Hanging Bat for a few more beers🍻. We were hoping to visit the Van Gogh exhibition today but we’ve just found out that it’s not on on Monday and we head to Newcastle tomorrow. Time for coffee ☕️

 

[Dave7]

I don't think there is an answer to that.

No....I can see both sides.
What I DO object to eg someone we know has claimed every benefit going for years but goes walking and dancing gggrrrhhh

 

[numbnuts]

I'm washing my two fleece onesies today, hopefully won't need them until the winter

 

[classic33]

I'm washing my two fleece onesies today, hopefully won't need them until the winter

We've had summer! When?

 

[numbnuts]

We've had summer! When?

It's in progress

 

[Deleted member 1258]

It's in progress

A work in progress thats behind schedule, well my plants think its behind schedule.

 

[ColinJ]

Can somebody please put me out of my misery!

I have just solved the last clue in a cryptic crossword. I checked the answer and it is correct, but I can't quite see how it works.

Clue: See box presented to the Queen (7)

Answer: Chester

I worked out that 'box' was 'chest' , 'presented to' meant preceding, and 'Queen' was 'ER' . Put together for Chester, but... WHY?