Uniforms at funerals

[snapper_37]

Ok, I'm putting it here but Admin may want to move it to P & L (me a wuss).

I'm going to my Aunty's funeral tomorrow and have just found out that my cousin (who has never met her and couldn't be arsed meeting her for 20 yrs) is turning up in full uniform. She passed out of Sandhurst in December (dead proud me and all that cos she my cousin).

What is it all about?

I can understand if it is a close family member or a person part of the forces but this....

My OH is a nursing Sister. Should she turn up as such?

 

[cisamcgu]

You dress, as far as I am concerned, with respect. How one does that is entirely up to the person.

I know that is not much help... sorry

 

[ufkacbln]

It was always expected by our family for the service personnel to turn up in uniform, especially as many of the people being buried were ex service.

 

[Jonathan M]

My OH is a nursing Sister. Should she turn up as such?

I've known many nurses (including myself) attend the funerals of patients who we've looked after, wearing uniforms. Famil member, no, I'd wear a suit.


Re original problem, I've no idea what the ettiquette should be, strikes me as a little odd though. Does the cousin not own a sombre suit?

 

[Gerry Attrick]

If it's not disrespectful, what's the worry? Wouldn't your aunt have been proud?

 

[montage]

erm...if you had a military uniform, and were in the military...why wouldn't you use it?

All else aside, it is tradition.....

 

[snapper_37]

Does the cousin not own a sombre suit?

Course she does... it's like willy waving about the Army to me.

 

[montage]

Course she does... it's like willy waving about the Army to me.

Willy waving about the army? expand please

 

[cisamcgu]

Course she does... it's like willy waving about the Army to me.

Sorry, I thought this was a serious question

*wanders off*

 

[snapper_37]

Willy waving about the army? expand please

So no other person's job is up to army status then? That's my point.

My aunty was being cared for in NHS by consultants, doctors and nurses.

Not by the Army.

 

[snapper_37]

If it's not disrespectful, what's the worry? Wouldn't your aunt have been proud?

Yes, if she'd have met said officer. I just don't get it, that's all.

 

[addictfreak]

I dont think anyone has suggested that the army's status is higher or lower than any other profession.

 

[montage]

So no other person's job is up to army status then? That's my point.

My aunty was being cared for in NHS by consultants, doctors and nurses.

Not by the Army.

To be honest...some jobs are not up to Army status, some jobs are. If other members of the public has a uniform to signify their job, then by all means wear it, especially if it is a job which does public service, such as the NHS, Army, whatever. Also the military have strong ties with the church, mainly traditional ties....so why should there be traditional ties you ask? Well the whole idea of a funeral service is traditional.

 

[rich p]

I went to my Dad's funeral in a Hawaiian shirt, so doesit matter what she wears as long she's coming to pay her respects?

 

[ianrauk]

Yep, I really cant see what the problem is. If she feels that wearing her uniform is her way of showing respect then there is nothing wrong in that.