We made the posh kid cry!

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luckyfox

She's the cats pajamas
Location
County Durham
All parents dread the night when 'that' child comes to sleep over. You know which one I mean, the one who has everything, goes everywhere and thinks ordering a pizza means Dominoes!

He's nice enough and all the countries he's visited this year tends to blow over our heads. He's visited, sorry, inspected every corner of the house to see if it's to his liking. I've even changed the bunk beds! Do you know how hard it is for me to even pry the offspring teenager from the duvet long enough to be changed over the summer holidays but yes, we have clean sheets!

He's known as a King to an online world apparently with 'friends' all over globe. Met even one of them in person?? No, course not. But he has a harem of people he contacts daily via the internet, even someone from Greece! (Present company accepted of course but at least we know people in the outside world, you know, in 'real life')

But we've only gone and bloody made him cry!!

Is this it? Is this my whatever social status down the pan? I've never been 'one of them' the ones who gossiped in the playground. I was the blur waving at the child who was completely oblivious to being left as he raced towards the Lego diving in Scrooge McDuck style while I pelted off to work still munching my jam on toast and brushing my hair. I was always given a sky look when I took a day off and baked the worlds best muffins for the bake sale or volunteered for the school trips. It never fazed me. Had I just stood in the playground and bitched with them I would have been 'in' but no, I worked, my son had no multiaphabetical illness that meant I could claim the right benefits (no disrespect to the genuine children who suffer but these were just unhappy children playing up) No I worked hard, so hard our social circle moved and the posh kid came to stay. Today of all bloody days!

We didn't mean to make him cry! I sent them both out to pick up a dessert of their choosing. (It's a code we have that means 'I need a cup of tea in peace' here's a £5. For those without minions) No indication of anything... Then when they get back my offspring delightfully tells me the poor boy cried because he's so not used to leaving his own room!! ..... Yes let that sink in!

Now I know my son is different, he's mentally a child of the 80's for heavens sake but that's not right. Poor love! They're nearly 14! My son has a good balance of street wise v being childlike naive. But to be afraid to walk to the local shop? I wish he'd spoken up, I would have gone too but they were more concerned on what type of cake they were going to buy. No indication he wasn't ok. Hasn't mentioned it either. Very British stuff upper lip child of our time. Maybe he didn't even know how to say a short walk wasn't ok. He was dropped off at our door tonight! He only lives a 3 min cycle away and doesn't own a bike...:eek:
 

swee'pea99

Squire
You brutes!
 

Mad Doug Biker

Banned from every bar in the Galaxy
Location
Craggy Island
Some people are different to you.

Let that sink in for a bit.

Yebbut a 13 year old crying because he is scared of walking to the nearby shops, particularly after boasting about how worldly he is??

Sorry, but that is just wrong and his parents need a good speaking too!

Jeez, I was able to walk to the shops alone at half his age!!
 

Mad Doug Biker

Banned from every bar in the Galaxy
Location
Craggy Island
You were lucky!..........

To be fair, we did live in a reasonably safe area and there were so many back lanes and shortcuts that you could easily take a different route each time.

The nearest shop was between 5 and 10 mins walk away.
 

vernon

Harder than Ronnie Pickering
Location
Meanwood, Leeds
Thanks @Marmion for the comment it really made me think. Maybe my words were harsh, he is a child after all. It comes from a fear of not being good enough (child of a broken home, oh gosh, yes I'm one of 'those' people). My fiancé, his father, passed away in a car accident when I was 7 months pregnant so I've always worked hard to provide for my son. I'm self employed now and I work about 60 hours a week to provide a good living. 5am starts and working when he's asleep is effortless when you have a strong independent young man smiling at you every day. Sometimes I feel like I need to make up for the fact my son has no family in his life so I fill his days with as many good life experiences as much as I can. My bike was always my escape when I was younger. I can't afford a car so I bought him a tricycle as soon as he could waddle. 14 years later he now has a great custom build I've worked really hard to provide and he works very hard to look after. It doesn't make up for the fact he hasn't got a; Dad, grandparents or any blood relative in his life but he sure doesn't think about that when we're doing off road trails together I can tell you!!

Maybe I'm jealous that some people seemingly have it easier because they have the support of family who have been there all their life (my delusion perhaps). I'd love to visit the places in the world this child has been to and once my son is old enough to go his way in the world I will have many adventures of my own. (We've been lucky enough to travel but I couldn't afford it recently) 14 years has been a long wait to fulfil my globe backpacking dreams but I've only 4 more years to go and I can go off Indiana Jones style! Id love all the abundance this boy speaks of and their 4 bed new build on the much nicer estate next to ours. But I rent a small council house and save like mad so I can put a tiny mortgage on it and give the house to my son as his first step on the property ladder/ Uni fees or whatever he chooses.

Yesterday I felt overly vulnerable. It was a year since my Mum passed away. It's been building up but my goodness on Thursday night did it overwhelm me. I never really knew her. She didn't know herself. I spent 15 years locked in an abusive home but I was soooo lucky, I met the love of my life at 15 and moved out as soon as I was legally able to. Into our new home with my new fiancé and soon out new baby was on the way!

When my Mum got cancer two years ago I gave up work to look after her because she had no one. I lost my clients and we lived off my 'go traveling when he's older' savings pot. She was due to come home the day she passed away. I'd waited 31 years for a Mum but the blessing was in her very last moments I was a Mum to her. Sadly something she lived all her life without. I'm very proud I could give her that.

Last year kicked off a huge chain of events for me. I realised all the things my Mum never did in her life and it's inspired me to do so much this last year. I've always done voluntary/charity work but this year I'm doing two charity runs!! Me, running, who knew? Next week actually! First time ever and I'm a bit wobbly nerved, but I'm going for it!

I'd not met this boy before and I've always had a niggle that they might not have a good time when they first come over. We never had people over when I was young so I've got no model of how it works. But he's asked to come back again!! Maybe I shouldn't feel bad that I can't provide all this boy seemingly has. That is pretty shallow. But I tell you what. I'm proud as punch that my boy took care of his friend when he got upset.

I've just finished my work for today so I'm off to make a mammoth Sunday breakfast for two hungry young men!!

Have a great day peeps!

That's quite a payload of insecurities and envy to deal with.
 

Tail End Charlie

Well, write it down boy ......
Reminds me of a time I took my lad camping. I had done it each year and let him take a friend. When he was ten he took a new friend whose family are very wealthy, houses throughout the world, expensive holidays etc. We always went to a site in Wales which is pretty basic (my lad describes it as the one with a tap in the middle of the field). Anyway we do camping type things and when dropping off the friend at his home he dashes in and says "mum, mum, you won't believe it, I've just had the best holiday EVER!!".
You'll have had the same effect on your son's friend, well done to you, luckyfox.
 
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