What is the issue (paranoia?) with giving a phone number to someone?

Discussion in 'CycleChat Cafe' started by night cycler, 14 May 2019.

  1. ianrauk

    ianrauk Tattooed Beat Messiah

    Atop a Ti

    I'm not as bad as my colleague. I get 100+ emails a day usually, most of them not even worth opening, even though it is to do with work. And some people do find it odd I reply to an email with an old fashioned phone call rather then an email reply. Almost like it catches them off guard.
  2. marinyork

    marinyork Resting in suspended Animation

    A lot of technologies are adopted by 80 or 90% quite quickly after an initial slow adoption period and the it takes the other 10-20% a long time or they never do. This applies to mobiles, broadband and in some cases electricity, inside toilets, all sorts of things.

    Digital exclusion is a big problem and will be in future, just I don't know how you solve it. Marginalised groups are often time rich and cash poor.
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  3. Slick

    Slick Veteran

    I do think that a lot of the young team struggle with actually speaking to someone they don't know. I know they grunt a lot but they are far more comfortable ranting on Facebook than speaking to a stranger. I also agree with the social anxiety thing which is very different from the teenage angst. The actual phone number shouldn't be a problem as it's easy to block people you don't want to contact you. Best thing ever to stop those daft sales calls.
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  4. Brains

    Brains Guru

    I agree re issues of electricity or outside toilets
    (Our house, in a middle class area of inner London, did not get electricity until the early 1960's and next door only installed an inside toilet and bathroom last year!)

    I googled "digital exclusion"
    Interesting, it affects around 15% of the UK population.

    In summary they have identified 4 main kinds of challenge that people face to going online:
    • access - the ability to actually go online and connect to the internet
    • skills - to be able to use the internet
    • motivation - knowing the reasons why using the internet is a good thing
    • trust - a fear of crime, or not knowing where to start to go online
    Digital inclusion is about overcoming all of these challenges, not just one.

    The OP phone number issue would also be covered by some of the above.
  5. Speaking as someone who only uses voice calls as a last resort: yes, it's odd to reply to an email with a phone call, and not especially welcome to people who don't much like phone calls. One of the benefits of email is that it's asynchronous and if the thing to be communicated doesn't require an actual conversation then why use a voice call? I certainly use voice calls a lot for conferencing, but for trivia, why bother? Apart from anything else, making a voice call introduces the possibility of entering into voicemail, which is the most appallingly awful excuse for communication ever invented :sad:
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  6. YukonBoy

    YukonBoy Extra solar

    Ultima Thule
    Back in 1988 we had an internal instant message feature at work. It was a bit like Twitter in that the length was limited, but I don't recall the exact limit. One feature was that you could add a date to the "instant" message and it would be not be sent till that date arrived. One week I went on holiday and I set up some messages that would trigger and be sent whilst I was away. It wasn't till the Friday that they twigged I wasn't there and that I had guessed what their replies might be so my next pre planned message made sense. Oh what fun we had.
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  7. YukonBoy

    YukonBoy Extra solar

    Ultima Thule
    As for the phone thing I have a £5.99 PAYG phone and it is the number for that I give out outside those I can trust. If I ever get nuisance calls on it I can just get another cheap SIM card.
  8. cyberknight

    cyberknight Wibble

    Land of confusion
    TBH i have pretty much given up on freecycle as most of the people on it are either ebayers etc after stock or you arrange a time and they dont turn up at all , its amazing how many people have relatives who die all of a sudden when they are due to collect .
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  9. Phaeton

    Phaeton Guru

    Oop North (ish)
    That is one of my biggest hates, if you can bother to make arrangements you can also have the decency to say you're not coming, I don't care if you don't want the item what I care about is wasting my time waiting for you to turn up.
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  10. MarkF

    MarkF Legendary Member

    Freecycle has some right wacko's using it and running it. I kept getting let down by people not turning up and not giving a phone number, so, on my next advert, giving good stuff away remember, l mentioned this.

    I got a curt message from a moderator (probably a global one) telling me off for saying that, and if l did it again they'd close my account.

    I sorted it for them, l now use the council dump.:okay:
  11. MarkF

    MarkF Legendary Member

    Have his legs fallen off or summat?
  12. Brains

    Brains Guru

    Just a young technophobe, who works for a major office based corporation, who voluntarily is becoming part of the 'digital exclusion' part of society.
    He has no TV, no WiFi at home, no PC.

    The problem will come in 10-15 years time when you wont be able to even buy a newspaper without digital knowledge
  13. YukonBoy

    YukonBoy Extra solar

    Ultima Thule
    That will be fine, there will be no Newspapers in 15 years time.
  14. Pat "5mph"

    Pat "5mph" A kilogrammicaly challenged woman Moderator

    I start most of my communications via What'sApp of FB messenger if I don't know the phone number.
    But if someone starts a conversation on whatever platform, I will carry on the conversation likewise.
    If the Freecycling conversation was started via email, I would find it normal to carry on communicating via email.
    Btw, I'm 56, not autistic or anxious, still I hate speaking on the phone, it rattles me somehow :laugh:
  15. SpokeyDokey

    SpokeyDokey 20% through Decade 7. Yikes! Moderator

    A friend has two offspring, both recent graduates, who hate talking on phones. They won't even answer the home landline.

    They use Twitter/Instagram/FB/WhatsApp all the time though.

    Nonetheless, they are both more than happy to undergo job interviews via online webcam.
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