Why be happy when you can have a cross to bear

[Lonestar]

How far?

Not many...17½ mles round commute....

 

[Pale Rider]

I won't close the door and will extend an invitation for family to come to me in future but will be making my own plans until it feels right to do otherwise.

Sounds a good plan to me, although my track record on this type of stuff is less than sparkling.

The most important thing is you make decisions with which you are content