Have a great ride!Hello all
Your collective wisdom is amazing. You have reinforced what my clinical psychologist said when I last saw her 20 years ago. What she taught me has faded over time so it is great to be reminded of it.
Globalti - it has been cathartic to write it down. I may even actually write a letter then not post it. They won't change (SDI) and they are good people even if they are completely lacking in emotional intelligence (Miss Tilly Flop) so it will do no good to post it.
Sharing has also made me realise that few families are like the Waltons (May Use Full Lane). Most people either don't realise or accept it and adapt but some, like me, are more scarred. Sharing has also helped reinforce that it's okay to be me (Salad Dodger). I started off the odd one out in life, more intelligent than my classmates, left-footed so it was hard to join in right-footed skipping games, no social skills at school.
So going forward I won't say never again (Stephenite) nor get too needy on friends (SDI). In future years I will look to going away more often or volunteering at a soup kitchen. I will also make it clear that my family are welcome to come down to me but they need to make the running.
Cuchilo - you made me laugh!
Last night I had the best night's sleep and today am going for a ride, wind permitting and best of luck to Sandra6 and others in Cumbria and Northumberland.
Thank you all again - I will always treasure all your posts. More posts are welcome; they are all helping lift my mood.
Alison
And they say no-one remembers the true spirit of Christmas...Best Christmas i had was when i told everyone to do one and went round my mates house . Me and him got absolutely shitfaced and watched shrek films all day![]()
Two branches of Mrs SJ's family live in our neck of the woods. We pass each other in the street without a glance and I haven't spoken to my brother for years. In fact he's been married twice and I've never met either wife. His 22 year old daughter I've only met twice, the last being at my mum's funeral twelve years ago. Families are not a choice, you're stuck with them for better or worse.
Best thing I ever did was moving to a different country. I like my family a whole lot more from a distance...
Hope you have the Christmas you deserve @alicat, there's so much pressure to conform to a perceived family norm that barely exists outside of films, good on you for breaking out.
I'm in work and not particularly bothered not to be doing the in-law rounds and enforced bonhomme.
How far?Same here,nobody to argue with apart from myself (and a few work colleagues I guess).Working and commuting Christmas Eve and back on the 27th..Good luck.