Of course it does. If I've arranged to meet somebody for a regular (non-important) Sunday afternoon pint, I might cancel if it's unexpectedly sunny and go for a ride instead, I can go for a pint any time. If it was for something "important", then I'd make sure I was in attendance and on time.
why do people break agreements !!!
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Of course it does. If I've arranged to meet somebody for a regular (non-important) Sunday afternoon pint, I might cancel if it's unexpectedly sunny and go for a ride instead, I can go for a pint any time. If it was for something "important", then I'd make sure I was in attendance and on time.
I wonder if there's a question of how 'binding' the agreement is/was ?
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Could this casual attitude to agreements [or vows, to take it further ...] (can you see where this is going ?
) be one of the reasons there is so much marriage/relationship break-down, with its ensuing social issues ?
"My word is my bond" is not very common these days, is it ?
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- 'Meet you for a pint after work, then ?' - could be considered a casual, not-too-critical agreement, more of an 'arrangement'
- I will do/be there - could be more 'binding'
]Could this casual attitude to agreements [or vows, to take it further ...] (can you see where this is going ?
) be one of the reasons there is so much marriage/relationship break-down, with its ensuing social issues ?"My word is my bond" is not very common these days, is it ?
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Noodley
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I take it you don't mean selling children?
oldfatfool
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Well if somebody made me an offer and didn't call to collect one of them I'd be pretty peeved!
Isn't that how internet forums work?
Cyclist33
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Often it's because the person they made the agreement with intimidated them subconsciously or otherwise into making the pledge; in the cold light of day and reassured by their own rationality they realised they did not feel comfortable with what was agreed.
Stu
snailracer
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I agree. No, wait...
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biggs682
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neither said people were forced into arrangements and 1 even promised the event would happen first before me asking
Cyclist33
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never said that would be you!
slowmotion
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Some people are flakes. It doesn't matter. Just don't deal with them again. Of course, you could always give them another chance if the mood takes you.
Over The Hill
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Some people do have a strange view on commitment to something.
On another site I saw someone moan as he was in a party of 20 that booked in to a restaurant but only 8 turned up. He did not moan about the missing 12 but moaned that the restaurant still wanted to make a charge based on the 20 people booked (with staff and food etc laid on and possibly others turned away) but this person seemed to think it was fine to mess everyone about.
Social life seems less organised or very last minute with everyone in contact all the time. (old git mode there)
On another site I saw someone moan as he was in a party of 20 that booked in to a restaurant but only 8 turned up. He did not moan about the missing 12 but moaned that the restaurant still wanted to make a charge based on the 20 people booked (with staff and food etc laid on and possibly others turned away) but this person seemed to think it was fine to mess everyone about.
Social life seems less organised or very last minute with everyone in contact all the time. (old git mode there)
EltonFrog
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I once committed to book a table of ten for a charity dinner / dance, a fundraiser for a hostpital radio station. Then I set about the task of selling eight of the places to friends. I got four couples to commit and we were set for a good night out. I trust my friends so I had no trouble paying for the tickets, then I would collect the money later.
One couple dropped out, I resold the tickets, a nuisance but no big deal.
Then a week before all four couples dropped out. They knew that I bought the tickets, but non of them offered to pay, and at such short notice I only managed to re-sell one of the tickets. The last straw was one of the couples pulled out the evening before the event.
I have never bought tickets to an event like this since, and I have never spoken to two of the couples, so called good friends, since.
When I say I'm going to do something, I do it, even if I regret the commitment at a later date, it's just bad manners otherwise.
One couple dropped out, I resold the tickets, a nuisance but no big deal.
Then a week before all four couples dropped out. They knew that I bought the tickets, but non of them offered to pay, and at such short notice I only managed to re-sell one of the tickets. The last straw was one of the couples pulled out the evening before the event.
I have never bought tickets to an event like this since, and I have never spoken to two of the couples, so called good friends, since.
When I say I'm going to do something, I do it, even if I regret the commitment at a later date, it's just bad manners otherwise.
