Wife asked why I DIDN'T put an X on end of message...

[Tin Pot]

... to her friend!

One of Mrs SG's friends was taking part it a triathlon and I posted a message of support. Mrs SG then asked why I didn't put an x on the end?!

I know women do this in messages to each other all the time but I've always understood that you shouldn't in a message from a man to a woman (unless of course it's a wife / daughter / mistress (lol)) as its easily taken the wrong way.

Am as just being old fashioned?

Get in there, it's an open invitation.

 

[ufkacbln]

Surely the safest way is not to?

What if the person on the other end feels offended by it?

 

[User33236]

Surely the safest way is not to?

What if the person on the other end feels offended by it?

My thoughts exactly though TBH I never have understood women

 

[sarahale]

X to friends male and female

Xx to family and close friends or friends if they need some extra support!

Between Xxx and Xxxxx to boyfriend

 

[oldwheels]

Bit late to this but when I worked as a postman many years ago near a naval base we always knew ( top secret tho') when a sub was due home soon. The letters to the wives had KOR or KORFL on the back. Work it out yourself!

 

[ufkacbln]

My thoughts exactly though TBH I never have understood women

Either sex could be offended!

 

[User33236]

Either sex could be offended!

Can't see my admission of bring completely and utterly confused at the goings on inside the female mind causing offence to anyone

 

[winjim]

Women: XX
Men: XY

 

[Gravity Aided]

Xs and Os to Mrs.GA in messages since e-mail, but not to others.

 

[jefmcg]

Can't see my admission of bring completely and utterly confused at the goings on inside the female mind causing offence to anyone

It's not "the female mind", it's your wife's mind. I am a woman, and I have no idea why she'd do that. None of my friends do that with their husband. It's not a woman thing.

I'll admit to one bit of sexism: if someone came here complaining a male partner was micromanaging her (or hist) relationships, it would make me wonder if this level of control was part of an abusive relationship. Because it's a woman doing it, I didn't even think of that. Which is definitely sexist, woman are just as capable of being controlling and abusive as men, though not always as able to back it up with physical force.

 

[User33236]

It's not "the female mind", it's your wife's mind. I am a woman, and I have no idea why she'd do that. None of my friends do that with their husband. It's not a woman thing.

I'll admit to one bit of sexism: if someone came here complaining a male partner was micromanaging her (or hist) relationships, it would make me wonder if this level of control was part of an abusive relationship. Because it's a woman doing it, I didn't even think of that. Which is definitely sexist, woman are just as capable of being controlling and abusive as men, though not always as able to back it up with physical force.

It is you that brought up the subject of being micro-managed. I do not for one moment believe that to be the case.

It was simply an innocent enquiry by Mrs SG as she felt that the particular message may have benefited from the addition on an x.

 

[jefmcg]

It is you that brought up the subject of being micro-managed. I do not for one moment believe that to be the case.

It was simply an innocent enquiry by Mrs SG as she felt that the particular message may have benefited from the addition on an x.

Yes, sure. But she didn't do it because she has a woman's mind. She did it because she has Mrs SG's mind, and that's how she rolls.

 

[User33236]

Yes, sure. But she didn't do it because she has a woman's mind. She did it because she has Mrs SG's mind, and that's how she rolls.

I believe you are reading too much into things in what was my amusement to her comment.

Additionally I do not know you nor you me therefore you have no knowledge on my understanding of the mindset of opposite sex. On the contrary I normally find males I know much easier to predict a reaction from than any female I have known.

 

[theclaud]

the mindset of [the] opposite sex.

There isn't one. That was kinda @jefmcg's point.

 

[User33236]

There isn't one. That was kinda @jefmcg's point.

At the risk of being repetitive you, too, have no knowledge of my life experience; nor read the final sentence of my post from which you have quoted.

This is surely going off topic from the original post?