summerdays said:
One of my daughter's school friends from primary school blamed any problems she had at school down to racism.
Yes. Just because a black man was being abused does not mean he was being abused because he was black.
I remember an incident at school when I was about fifteen. I was standing talking to two friends and a girl, a couple of years younger, came over and stood almost between us mocking what we were saying and just generally being annoying. I don't know why, I'd never seen her before.
She wasn't black but she was obviously half-cast, quite attractive actually. I said to her "Why don't you go and pick some cotton?". It was an insult targeted at her colour but I'm not racist, I just wanted to piss her off! Sure did the trick, all hell broke loose!
She vanished and I thought nothing of it. Next thing I know I was called out of my next class to go and see a teacher we called Johnny Cross, he was formidable character who was one of the most feared teachers in the school. He took me into a corridor, not an office, and pushed me up the wall by the throat! I'm not joking, this was back in the days when teachers could get away with stuff like that. Once he let me speak I explained that ok, maybe I shouldn't have said that, but she asked for it. I got a stern warning and that was it. Almost.
That night the girl came to my house, with her mother. I don't know where her mother was from but she had dark skin, not really black though, and clearly had issues about it. Sounds daft but back then there were hardly any black people in this area so I can see why she might feel isolated. Anyway, she was not a happy camper which led to me getting dogs abuse off my mother too.
Point being that it was blown up into a race issue when it was simply an insult aimed at someone who happened to have darker skin. Had she been white I would've called her something else but she'd still have copped an insult!
Would everyone have gone straight to thirty-thousand feet if I'd called her a fat cow? Doubt it. If the guy in this incident had not been black and the business man had said "F*** off you stupid old man" would we be on here discussing an ageist incident? Can't see it. People do suffer genuine racial abuse and discrimination all the time, and it is terrible, but when you start hanging every bit of abuse aimed at a black person on the racial abuse peg you risk doing more harm than good. I've yet to be convinced that blowing such incidents up rather than playing them down does any good to anyone.