i am being banned from saying this at the wedding of my niece

[surfdude]

for fu*k sake girl . your 25 and he is 50 with 6 children older than you and this will be his 5th marriage . how on earth do you think this is going to last . just fu*king get rid of this knob head and find someone else .

its going to be hard not to but i will respect her mother . i only see her a few times a year so dont think its my place to say anything . just hope someone gets through to her before the 26 feb

sorry about the little rant but need to express it somehow . this is a good a place as anywhere

 

[Yellow Saddle]

Please say it.

 

[LocalLad]

Don't go if you don't agree with it?

 

[Accy cyclist]

5th marriage!!

 

[winjim]

Best thing you can do is to be there for her if/when it does all go wrong.

 

[screenman]

When I was 18 and 1 month my whole family gathered together to try and talk me out of getting married the very next day, 42 years later that young girl who I did against their wishes marry the next is still my wife and my best mate. Strange things happen in life.

 

[User269]

Please say it.

..........but only if it's being filmed.

 

[Saluki]

I feel for you. My cousin married a woman 25 years his senior. He was about 25 when they married. and they were divorced within 3 years. My Dad tried sitting him down and suggesting that if she had had her first wedding at 20 and had been married 5 times already and he was her 6th, that each relationship only lasted 5 years. He also mentioned that each husband had been about his age and that she was the one tarting about with others and made out that she was so hard done by. Cousin didn't listen, in fact it seemed to make him more determined to make a go of it.

[QUOTE 4154604, member: 45"]If I had a pound for every time someone said "why didn't someone say something beforehand?"...[/QUOTE]

I wish someone had said something to me before marrying my ex. It turned out that everyone was relieved when I got the hell out of the marriage after 3 years and 9 months. Nobody liked him, nobody at all, and nobody said a word. I couldn't see what a horrible old goat he was and I was 35 at the time. He wasn't 25 years older though, only 7 or 8.
When I divorced (actually annulled the marriage but filed for divorce) him, I discovered that I was his 7th wife. 7th! He's on his 8th now.

Maybe a nice friendly chat, nothing pushy. If he has kids older than she is, what must they be thinking. Telling her that you will be there for her when it goes tits up might be helpful but then it might push her away.
Just wondering, has your niece got a nice well paid job? I'm a horrible cynic but just wondering?

 

[vernon]

for fu*k sake girl . your 25 and he is 50 with 6 children older than you and this will be his 5th marriage . how on earth do you think this is going to last . just fu*king get rid of this knob head and find someone else .

its going to be hard not to but i will respect her mother . i only see her a few times a year so dont think its my place to say anything . just hope someone gets through to her before the 26 feb

sorry about the little rant but need to express it somehow . this is a good a place as anywhere

I have two friends who are eight years older than your niece's partner with partners who are the same age as your neice. One couple is blissfully content, the other I'm not sure of the driving forces behind the relationship. I find it a strange experience when I meet up with them but the awkwardness problem is due to my values not coinciding with theirs and not vice versa. It's for them to make a success or failure of their relationships and for me to accommodate them.

 

[Tin Pot]

If you are close to your niece, then I would have a word now.

As Saluki said - a friendly enquiry, not an angry statement of opinion.

She's 25, so she's old enough to make her own mistakes. My niece is the same age and has been engaged twice, some women are just very keen to start a family.

 

[midlife]

I presume you have seen the father of the bride speech by Rowan Atkinson?

Shaun

 

[Drago]

for fu*k sake girl . your 25 and he is 50 with 6 children older than you and this will be his 5th marriage . how on earth do you think this is going to last . just fu*king get rid of this knob head and find someone else .

its going to be hard not to but i will respect her mother . i only see her a few times a year so dont think its my place to say anything . just hope someone gets through to her before the 26 feb

sorry about the little rant but need to express it somehow . this is a good a place as anywhere

I'm kinda sensing that something is bothering you?

 

[tyred]

5th marriage!!

I guess some people are a glutton for punishment.

 

[Dec66]

for fu*k sake girl . your 25 and he is 50 with 6 children older than you and this will be his 5th marriage . how on earth do you think this is going to last . just fu*king get rid of this knob head and find someone else .

its going to be hard not to but i will respect her mother . i only see her a few times a year so dont think its my place to say anything . just hope someone gets through to her before the 26 feb

sorry about the little rant but need to express it somehow . this is a good a place as anywhere

...but is she happy?

 

[midliferider]

Sometimes in these situations, you need to ask the very difficult question.
What made this person to take this decision?