biggs682
Touch it up and ride it
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- Northamptonshire
that is the main thing and the main question
@surfdude all you can do is ask the question above and respect her answer
i am being banned from saying this at the wedding of my niece
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that is the main thing and the main question
@surfdude all you can do is ask the question above and respect her answer
You can't possibly do right in this situation.
If it was me? I'd say all that to her, calmly, while there was still time for her to back out.
And if she doesn't; you have no choice but to back her up and support her as much as you can. But you can't ever say 'I told you so...'
If it was me? I'd say all that to her, calmly, while there was still time for her to back out.
And if she doesn't; you have no choice but to back her up and support her as much as you can. But you can't ever say 'I told you so...'
Smokin Joe
Legendary Member
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- Bare headed cyclist, Smoker
I would mind my own business. She's old enough to make her own decisions and her own mistakes.
Besides, any intervention on your part would likely result in a rude reply and a breakdown in your relationship.
Besides, any intervention on your part would likely result in a rude reply and a breakdown in your relationship.
subaqua
What’s the point
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- Leytonstone
did she have form ? you know like 4 previous marriages and 6 kids each with a different partner ? apples and oranges
some of my friends tried to talk my wife and me out of getting married. the words were "it wouldn't last" that was 16 years ago. neither of us had previous skeletons ready to pop out.
No form at all, I guess they were sure it would not work. Funny thing is out of 5 siblings ours is the only one that did last.
swee'pea99
Legendary Member
I can see why you're banned from saying it at the wedding. Might put a crimp in their Special Day...
nickyboy
Norven Mankey
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- You want hills? We got hills
As always with this sort of thing you need to ask yourself the question "What am I hoping to achieve by saying something?"
If the answer is "to make her change her mind" you need to think how unlikely this is. You only see her a few times a year, you can't be particularly close
If the answer is "because I think I have to say something" you are being selfish and it's just to make you feel better, not to achieve anything other than upset people
If the answer is "to make her change her mind" you need to think how unlikely this is. You only see her a few times a year, you can't be particularly close
If the answer is "because I think I have to say something" you are being selfish and it's just to make you feel better, not to achieve anything other than upset people
fossyant
Ride It Like You Stole It!
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- South Manchester
Sounds like my niece but she is 21. Got pregnant by her boyfriend - his 4th at 21 by 3 girls. Kept my gob shut. Hes not exactly a good catch. Cant hold a job down, out on the razzle all the time.
Smokin Joe
Legendary Member
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- Bare headed cyclist, Smoker
Odds on you wouldn't have taken any notice.
fossyant
Ride It Like You Stole It!
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- South Manchester
A mate of mine has just left his wife he's been with for 30 years for a 26 year old. Awkward as we are friends with both of them so have stayed 'impartial'.
Pro Tour Punditry
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I cannae see what could possibly go wrong if you went along and told everyone what you thought. Good move.
