Your friend and those close to him should remain supportive
Thank you for your reply. I haven't put too many details on here out of respect but this is about my side.
(I completely respect and understand depression but i've only just found out he has this)
The advice I need is re this: There was an incident with a cause for concern and now he's told me to leave him alone and not to contact him. He's an adult and can make his own choices and I respect this. His family/friends don't know about his depression and I don't know them very well and would never want to betray his confidence. If this is how he wants to deal with it, it's his choice. If he wants to talk to me or anyone else, this is also his choice. I'm his friend no matter what and in NO way do I judge him. Everything makes so much sense now and it hurts to know all this time he's been struggling with this all on his own. I thought his behaviour was strange, his friends/family have too but we didn't know. Now I've been told he's cut me off and they still don't know.
Do I just leave him to it? Or send a message in a few days? He's upset that this has been brought to the forefront but I have no intentions of making it worse. Is it best for me to stay out of his life for good? I know these are hard to answer, I just feel bad and wish I could help. I know I can't as it has to be him to get help, I mean I just want him to know he's not alone.