Age differences between partners.

[red_tom]

I realise that a lot depends on the maturity and character of the other person (Harold and Maude is one of my favourite films of all time) but is there an official formula which determines the boundary of when things become a bit odd/icky?

I'm talking 20s and over here, none of your Nabokov-esque horribleness.

 

[purplemoon]

You're only as old as the man/woman you feel

 

[alecstilleyedye]

You're only as old as the man/woman you feel

bugger, i'm over 40 then

 

[Mr Pig]

The younger the better I would have thought...although not 'glitter' young obviously!

 

[mr_cellophane]

My view on this has changed as my daughters have got older. Now lusting after someone their age just doesn't seem right.




Perhaps I should stop doing it.

 

[Rhythm Thief]

I've tended to go the other way. Two of my previous girlfriends have been ten years older than me (I was between twenty and thirty when each relationship started). "Older" women make much better lovers, in my experience.

 

[alecstilleyedye]

judging by the conversations of the twenty somethings i've overheard in my office, it would probably be hell for both of us, should i be a silly bugger and start an affair…

 

[spindrift]

Half your age plus seven years is Mick jagger's rule.

So, if you're forty, twenty seven and older is fine.

 

[Greedo]

I honestly couldn't be with someone much younger. I've done the older thing in the past, she was 11 years older. Lasted a few years and everything was cool. Just grew apart. If it was the other way about I don't think i could handle someone at 24 as I'm 35 now. Think it is the fact i've got 4 sisters and the 2 younger ones are about this age and just see them as still young, carefree and mad although both working in great jobs.

My wife now is 12 days older than me and it is cool as we have soo much in common. Saying that she is a darling and looks a lot younger. I'm without a doubt punching above my weight. When she starts looking a bit ropey I'll maybe ready be ready to trade her in.

 

[ChrisKH]

My view on this has changed as my daughters have got older. Now lusting after someone their age just doesn't seem right.




Perhaps I should stop doing it.

Fortunately I have sons, so this will never be a problem for me.

 

[surfgurl]

Mr Surf is 47 and I am 30. We met when I was 18-19 and he was 36. If that adds up correctly.

 

[GrahamG]

Fortunately I have sons, so this will never be a problem for me.

You can be pervy dad! Superb, something I can aspire to

 

[Greedo]

You are obviously happy as you have been together for years but I can't get my head round that at all. I'm 35 now and just can't see how I could have much in common with a girl who's not long left school.

I know the pervs will joke on here and say 'Oh that would be great' but I just can't see myself doing it.

I hope i've not offended you. I just feel if you both met at the age you both are now I don't see a problem but back then you were so young!

Mr Surf is 47 and I am 30. We met when I was 18-19 and he was 36. If that adds up correctly.

 

[yello]

I'd kinda agree with Greedo here, not from personal experience as all my partners have been around my own age give-or-take a few years, but from the experience of having socialised with different age groups and, more tellingly, the current relationship of a friend.

He's 45, she's 24. He's been going out with her for around 4 years now and they are happy (I suppose that's the bottom line really). He adores her, dotes on her and it's kind of creepy to me (admitted, that's my problem!). What I do really find difficult to comprehend is the chasm of difference in experience and expectation they must BOTH have means there are worlds that they just cannot share with each other. Differences can make a relationship but there needs to be commonality as well. I think that is just much much less likely when there is a significant age difference.

 

[Bigtallfatbloke]

In Montpellier I got 'hit on' by a young lady in her early twenties...I found the experience confusing to be honest.