asking someone out - question

[al78]

Has anyone ever been in the situation of being involved in some social group or organization, and feeling an attraction for someone else within that organization, asked them out on a date and got turned down? If so, did that person feel awkward/uncomfortable in your company afterward whenever you saw them again? Is there a way around this, or is it an inevitable risk that one has to take if one wishes to date the opposite sex?

 

[jim55]

Yeah , take the risk , take the bull by the horns and b a man , it may pay off

 

[Night Train]

Yes, and yes, and yes.

However, I gave up looking speculatively at relationships, within a group or organisation I was in, a long while a go. It just wasn't worth while.

I only ended up with Arch because it happened naturally and mutually over time, through a shared mutual interest outside of the forum, and so there was no actual speculative asking.

 

[CopperCyclist]

What Night Train said. If you're in the same group, and meet/socialise often, you'll probably find it relatively easy to progress any relationship and know if it's going to happen without having to do the 'asking' part! If you've tried this and aren't sure perhaps it's a no

 

[biggs682]

Yeah , take the risk , take the bull by the horns and b a man , it may pay off

go for it you might end up both living happily ever after if you do or you might ending up living a life of misery if you dont

 

[avalon]

Take a chance and do it before someone else beats you to it. What have you got to loose? You can always move to another town if things go badly wrong.

 

[the_mikey]

Is there already some kind of chemistry between you and the person you're thinking of asking? Are you both flirting?

 

[Red Light]

Go for it but soft start. Try asking if they fancy grabbing a coffee after rather than asking if they'll go to bed with you

You'll soon discover over a coffee if there is a mutual interest or its just a coffee. And if its just a coffee nothing lost.

 

[Hitchington]

Ask them out, if they turn you down it's no great disaster. At least you know where you stand. Have a sense of humour about it, it's not like breaking up or having a divorce! Imagine if they say yes, just think where that may lead too (marriage, kids, divorce... )

Good luck!

 

[craven2354]

I was in the situation a few years ago was to scared to ask anyways got talking to the person again a few months back out of interest asked them what there answer would of been at the time and they said they would of said yes I was gutted don't be a wimp like me and just ask

 

[Silver Fox]

If you don't ask, you don't get.

Life's too short to spend it thinking, What If.

 

[rich p]

Don't do it - you'll just humiliate yourself and it will more than likely lead to a spiral of despair and self-loathing.
Hope that helps.

 

[Drago]

I'm hopeless with chicks, so I'm not a good person to ask. On the plus side I look like George Clooney so don't need to try hard

 

[Fnaar]

My girlfriend accused me of being a stalker. Well, I say girlfriend... she isn't yet, but she will be.

 

[4F]

I'm hopeless with chicks, so I'm not a good person to ask. On the plus side I look like George Clooney so don't need to try hard

Was that a typo, did you mean George Formby ?