asking someone out - question

[Beebo]

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She carried on “I want an affair with you. We’ll sleep together – we can get decent hotels – but it’s not going to be a romantic thing as I don’t want the families breaking up. It’s just excitement and fun – the boundaries will be set. And there won’t be anyone else, and it won’t be a one-night stand. I want it to be long term. The French do it, after all.”[/quote]

You cant just leave that story there.

How 's the relationship going? Do you still book into decent hotels or is it just Travel Lodges now?

 

[ColinJ]

Now that's what some of us would describe as "Striking Gold".

Whereas the more sane among us would be thinking ...


"Run away!"

 

[Night Train]

Arch can be a bit up front at times. Glad it worked out.

No, not Arch.



I was once invited for a walk by a girlfriend, and a lesbian friend of hers. During the walk the friend switched from just chatting to me to asking some rather odd questions about my views on children and fatherhood...
I politely answered honestly and the questions got more and more probing until I finally said that I would never consider fathering children unless I was absolutely sure, as best I could be, that the relationship I was in was a strong, loving one that felt like it would definitely be life long and happy. Then I would consider having children within that relationship!

The conversation died off after that.

Apparently I had been set up by the girlfriend as a possible donor for her friend.
The friend eventually made a 'purchase' from the internet.

 

[jefmcg]

I'm female, and was (am) interested in science, science fiction, tech etc etc. I got hit on a lot by "friends", to the point it got almost insulting. I'd think I was friends with a guy, then he'd hit on me. I thought to myself "I thought you liked me, but it turns out you just fancied me".
But no, rejecting them didn't destroy the friendship, though it was not uncommon to find that they weren't actually interested in being friends at all and drifted away. And no, I didn't end up with one of them, but with a man I pursued because he was hot :-)

(I'm not saying I was super hot or anything, quite the contrary. Maybe it was I was often the only girl they knew who could talk about that stuff, or - not uncommonly - they only girl they knew at all.)

 

[Maz]

Keep it sweet. Make sure her husband doesn't find out, yeah?

 

[Archie_tect]

You cant just leave that story there.

How 's the relationship going? Do you still book into decent hotels or is it just Travel Lodges now?

...when the labrador started to lick his ear, he woke up, in the beer tent on his own.

 

[Doseone]

Has anyone ever been in the situation of being involved in some social group or organization, and feeling an attraction for someone else within that organization, asked them out on a date and got turned down? If so, did that person feel awkward/uncomfortable in your company afterward whenever you saw them again? Is there a way around this, or is it an inevitable risk that one has to take if one wishes to date the opposite sex?

You need to find out a bit more about her. The best way to do this is off a ladder in the dark with night vision goggles. Also, going through her bins for locks of her hair to keep in your pocket can be helpful.

Seriously though, I know it's easy to say, but if you really feel for this person then I think you have to go for it, or you will be forever wondering what could have been. Good luck anyway.

 

[Nihal]

You need to find out a bit more about her. The best way to do this is off a ladder in the dark with night vision goggles. Also, going through her bins for locks of her hair to keep in your pocket can be helpful.

Okay that would just piss her off

 

[Doseone]

Okay that would just **** her off

Do you think?

 

[Chris H]

Has anyone ever been in the situation of being involved in some social group or organization, and feeling an attraction for someone else within that organization, asked them out on a date and got turned down? If so, did that person feel awkward/uncomfortable in your company afterward whenever you saw them again? Is there a way around this, or is it an inevitable risk that one has to take if one wishes to date the opposite sex?

Give it a go what's the worse that could happen .................. Assuming your not her teacher

 

[mickle]

Play 'hard to get' and 'treat 'em mean to keep 'em keen'.

I also give advice on bicycle maintenance.

 

[Doseone]

Play 'hard to get' and 'treat 'em mean to keep 'em keen'.

Do you mean like this....

 

[Nihal]

Do you think?

Can you try it out and give us a good report about the result????????

 

[iLB]

Play 'hard to get' .

Not actually as crazy as it sounds, from recent experience.

To the OP, I've been there and been shot down too! But if you decided to post up on here I can imagine you have been thinking about it for a while, knowing is better than wondering, even if you don't hear what you want to hear.

 

[Doseone]

Can you try it out and give us a good report about the result????????

I don't want to end up with yet another restraining order!