asking someone out - question

[Night Train]

I wouldn't.

Having been on the receiving end of infidelity I wouldn't wish that pain on my worst enemy.

Same here, on more then one occasion.

However, I would be tempted to wish it upon my worst enemy if there was no other fallout.

 

[jefmcg]

That'll just leave her asking "Why's he asking me all these questions suddenly? If he wants to go out with me why doesn't he just ask?"

Yup.

Once the thing escalated, I'd probably realise that was all build up and be pretty creeped out. It would feel like stalking to me.

I was at a shopping mall once, and a guy asked me the time. I went wandering around the shops for an hour, then the same guy came up and asked me for coffee. "Have you been following me?" I couldn't get away from him fast enough. I have no idea how I would have reacted if he asked me for coffee on the first occasion, but the idea that this stranger had been following around for an hour still gives me the shivers. I know he was probably a nice guy, just a little shy, but yuck!

 

[Drago]

I wouldn't either. Perhaps 10 or 15 years ago I would have done, but i've grown up since then and don't let my groin make my decisions for me. Apart from which I'm all loved up with a woman 10 years my junior anyway and wouldn't do anything to hurt her or risk losing her.

 

[Red Light]

Yup.

Once the thing escalated, I'd probably realise that was all build up and be pretty creeped out. It would feel like stalking to me.

I was at a shopping mall once, and a guy asked me the time. I went wandering around the shops for an hour, then the same guy came up and asked me for coffee. "Have you been following me?" I couldn't get away from him fast enough. I have no idea how I would have reacted if he asked me for coffee on the first occasion, but the idea that this stranger had been following around for an hour still gives me the shivers. I know he was probably a nice guy, just a little shy, but yuck!

Again in that sort of situation I would have just said the first time about it being the wrong time and place but couldn't help noticing you and if you fancied getting together for a coffee sometime here's my number. And leave it at that. But each to his own and get your coat, jefmcg, you've pulled

 

[Sittingduck]

Great thread - very entertaining read...

By the way, what kind of gardening? Proper fruit 'n' veg or just flowers??

 

[dellzeqq]

if you're in some kind of a social situation you might try this one

'hello - since nobody here has the wit or the grace to introduce us, my names xxxxx - what's yours?'

 

[Drago]

To which they reply...

"Bernard"

 

[MissTillyFlop]

I find just being friendly and putting out on the first date works every time.

 

[Vapin' Joe]

The best approach is to say to her, "Look I'm not into this relationship nonsense, but how about us becoming f*ck buddies?"

Once you've had a few romps her feelings might grow.

 

[glasgowcyclist]

Well, here's an idea: on the wave of all things bike now being "in", casually ask if she would come along to a bike shop to help you make up your mind on a new bike/tyres/whatever.
You will have to exchange numbers, so that's a start. After you go for coffee. Depending on how it all developed, a few days later you text her for something trivial, another few days later you propose something else, ..

Funny you should say that Pat, I'm looking to change my old bike for something more up to date and need some help choosing a replacement...

GC

 

[Nihal]

Nihal, get off this thread, you have to be 16 to read all this

Make that 18

 

[iLB]

In sum...

 

[Red Light]

I find just being friendly and putting out on the first date works every time.

Can you do without the friendly bit? Its just that commitment thing with us men you see? How's your hair-washing schedule for tomorrow night MissTF?

 

[Red Light]

.And more single younger men and sad older women Hmm, I think I see a solution!

Go for it Cougar !

 

[Red Light]

I wouldn't.

Having been on the receiving end of infidelity I wouldn't wish that pain on my worst enemy.

Yes, affairs can be exciting for both men and women. But when the novelty wears off and it's realised that the grass isn't greener, the heartache and broken families they leave in their wake is devastating.

Well if the Mormons can manage the rest of us must be able to figure out a way that works.