Fab Foodie
hanging-on in quiet desperation ...
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- Kirton, Devon.
Not ryanair or Monarch....
Christmas Day and in laws ?
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Fab Foodie
hanging-on in quiet desperation ...
- Location
- Kirton, Devon.
Last year sadly due to separating from Mrs FF, I had a very different Christmas experience without all the usual family expectations. It was bloody marvellous.
Just sometimes you need to do things differently, sometimes you need some self preservation. Sometimes it does have to be about you.
Just sometimes you need to do things differently, sometimes you need some self preservation. Sometimes it does have to be about you.
- Location
- Somewhere wet & hilly in NW England.
This year I wanted to spend xmas day with just my wife and daughter somewhere like Lanzorote. My wife wants the Mother in law around again for the 13th time in a row. As I've lost both parents early in the year and what little family I have left are many miles away I feel it would have done me good. The thing is the whole day will be pain stakingly predictable. Hearing the same old tripe over and over again. It sounds kind of selfish putting it into words but I'm dreading Christmas Day.
As someone whose S-I-L has just returned to Londinium today after a 7 day stay you have my sympathies.
This week has sneakily become an annual affair and tbh it frazzles my brain - as a lover of my own space and routine I struggle with the intrusion.
I accept that the ever lovely Mrs SD is perfectly entitled to have family 'up' and I do my best to put a brave face on it all but it really tests my patience. Despite the genetic connection my S-I-L is not remotely like Mrs SD. She's a nice person but just not my cup of tea - and I'm probably not hers either.
It's a tricky situation to handle and tbh I can't seem to find a way to sort it so, although I have no real advice to offer, do take solace in the fact that you are not alone.
- Location
- Somewhere wet & hilly in NW England.
Actually after 30 years I am still madly and passionately in love with my wife and I am proud to be married to her and she makes my life complete. I know she feels the same about me. We have built ourselves a wonderful life together - and I stress the together bit.
If push came to shove and if it were possible: if she needed any of my remaining years I'd give her the lot in a heartbeat.
I fell in love with her and committed myself to her - I love being married to her. I never married her family so I don't agree with the correlation you make between 'can't be bothered with in-laws' and 'perhaps marriage isn't for you'.
raleighnut
Legendary Member
- Location
- One of the 'Elite'
We had this conversation earlier today with Maz's Son and his girlfriend, hopefully Maz will be going there on Christmas Day (I'm not)
BTW the Son is the guy who burgled us several years back (He was addicted to Cocaine at the time) and nicked my much loved (and massively uprated) Raleigh Mustang, over £2,000 worth of Camera kit and worst of all my Japanese Squier Telecaster, a fantastic guitar in a very unusual colour combination (Antique white with a red 'tortoiseshell' scratchplate/pickguard)
Quite common to see Fender Basses in this colour and you sometimes see the odd 'Strat' but a 'Tele'..............very rare.
Not only that but the Luthier who set it up for me (Bob Dayfield) told me it was one of the best playing guitars he'd seen in a long time when I went to collect it after he'd done the work.
BTW the Son is the guy who burgled us several years back (He was addicted to Cocaine at the time) and nicked my much loved (and massively uprated) Raleigh Mustang, over £2,000 worth of Camera kit and worst of all my Japanese Squier Telecaster, a fantastic guitar in a very unusual colour combination (Antique white with a red 'tortoiseshell' scratchplate/pickguard)
Quite common to see Fender Basses in this colour and you sometimes see the odd 'Strat' but a 'Tele'..............very rare.
Not only that but the Luthier who set it up for me (Bob Dayfield) told me it was one of the best playing guitars he'd seen in a long time when I went to collect it after he'd done the work.
KnackeredBike
I do my own stunts
My in-laws are Jewish which has the massive benefit that it is absolutely fine to ignore them at Christmas.
Maybe you could try and persuade yours to convert?
Maybe you could try and persuade yours to convert?
Dave 123
Legendary Member
- Location
- Cambridgeshire alps
I'm not a fan of christmas.
I'm not a fan of christmas with the in laws either at their place or ours. I think all CCers are on the same bike here- we'd sooner be out doing stuff, as opposed to indoors all day in an over heated house. My in laws wouldn't want to do much other than watch telly.
We did go to Tenerife twice at christmas.... with the in laws! The upside was it was sunny and warm outside, a nice pool, a nice hire bike. It always looks better under those conditions!
I'm not a fan of christmas with the in laws either at their place or ours. I think all CCers are on the same bike here- we'd sooner be out doing stuff, as opposed to indoors all day in an over heated house. My in laws wouldn't want to do much other than watch telly.
We did go to Tenerife twice at christmas.... with the in laws! The upside was it was sunny and warm outside, a nice pool, a nice hire bike. It always looks better under those conditions!
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We went to the canary Isle one year, Fuerteventura, it was lovely, just my Good Lady, me and our eldest lad, 25 degrees and sunny, spent Xmas morning on the beach and Xmas afternoon by the pool. I'd do it every year if I could afford it.
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Fnaar
Smutmaster General
- Location
- Thumberland
I'm going to invite Miss Goodbody round to mine this year. We're going to compare the contents of our stockings. 
GrumpyGregry
Here for rides.
This year tlh and I are planning to go to Canada for Xtmas & NY to see Vancouver and visit Boo (Age 28). #1 son (29) seems to think it is in incumbent upon me to shell out to fly him to Canada and provide him bed and board so he can join in whatever festive fun may occur. Much pouting has arisen as a result of my telling him that won't be happening, just can't afford it.
My parents and my parents-in-law are all dead. This is the first Xtmas this will be true. Hence I'm keen to take us out of the normal routine. Despite ma-in-law's dementia making Xtmas Day a 'mare in recent years, though looking back we weep with laughter at some of the lowlights, I miss hosting them all.
My parents and my parents-in-law are all dead. This is the first Xtmas this will be true. Hence I'm keen to take us out of the normal routine. Despite ma-in-law's dementia making Xtmas Day a 'mare in recent years, though looking back we weep with laughter at some of the lowlights, I miss hosting them all.
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Flying Dodo
It'll soon be summer
I've never understood why there is this expectation or requirement that you go to either your parents or in-laws at Christmas.
When you get married, you're forming a new family grouping, so it should be up to you to start a new tradition of having your own Christmas together, even more so if you have children. That's not to say you shouldn't see the family, so schedule a day at some point, but definitely not Christmas Day itself.
When you get married, you're forming a new family grouping, so it should be up to you to start a new tradition of having your own Christmas together, even more so if you have children. That's not to say you shouldn't see the family, so schedule a day at some point, but definitely not Christmas Day itself.
nickyboy
Norven Mankey
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- You want hills? We got hills
This year I wanted to spend xmas day with just my wife and daughter somewhere like Lanzorote. My wife wants the Mother in law around again for the 13th time in a row. As I've lost both parents early in the year and what little family I have left are many miles away I feel it would have done me good. The thing is the whole day will be pain stakingly predictable. Hearing the same old tripe over and over again. It sounds kind of selfish putting it into words but I'm dreading Christmas Day.
Usually the driver to have relatives around at Christmas isn't cos folk want them there, it's cos they don't want them to be on their own
If your MiL has nobody else and nowhere else to go, I'd suggest you suck it up. But talk to your wife and see if, between the two of you, you can engineer somewhere for her to go on Xmas Day such as a friend of hers. Then you can go away. That sounds like a reasonable compromise
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Good call on Monarch, what have you heard about Ryanair?
subaqua
What’s the point
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- Leytonstone
They are going to retrain Uber drivers to fly the planes , I mean what could possibly go wrong
