I have tried to keep out of this thread because anything I might add could be taken as jumping on the 'bash the OP bandwagon' but when the OP told us his previous bike of different make (Trek) did the same I think he sort of answered his own question.
I was actually thinking he could do with a Kona Hoss but it turns out he has had one and didn't suffer this problem with that bike.
My Ali commuter hasn't been cleaned in over 2yrs despite all seasons commuting(it has been well maintained though) and looks a lot like the OPs bike or maybe worse. I consider myself to be a reasonably powerful rider who rarely if ever uses the granny ring (actually took it off my MTB) and at a touch over 6ft and weighing between 14-15st I'm no flyweight but I have never done that to a frame.
IMO the OP needs to change his riding style and should steer clear of lighter frames. It doesn't have to be an MTB but there are stronger frames out there.
My GT Traffic 1.0 is a rigid hybrid that makes a great road bike but the frame is clearly descended from the MTB range and as such is perfect for my aggressive hooliganism style of riding.
Get a GT! (I have three of them

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