cut up by a colleague dilemma

[jonathan ellis]

Get all other colleagues together and stand and point in a "day of the triffids way"

 

[Angelfishsolo]

I had a liking for bike chains myself

with a metal pipe?

it was a lead pipe when I was a lad

 

[dondare]

Let their tyres down. If it happens again then paint-stripper on the bonnet.
For a third offence only a pipe running from the exhaust system onto the car will surfice.

 

[LOGAN 5]

wouldn't say anything as people react badly if their driving is criticised and his response to you and your remarks is likely to wind you up even more. Besides which you'll see him at work.

I'm now determined not to talk to motorists known or unknown in the future as it just gives them a chance to lecture me on why they decided to drive dangerously (they don't admit to driving dangerously of course) which is so irritating.

"You did this or that on the road so I'm now going to drive my ton of metal deliberately and really closely/dangerously/fast/turn left,right past you as punishment but if you talk to me about it it will be all your fault for being in my way in the first place which gives me the right to intimidate you with my big heavy fast car........."!

 

[Angelfishsolo]

Sounds like you have had at least one VERY bad experience.

wouldn't say anything as people react badly if their driving is criticised and his response to you and your remarks is likely to wind you up even more. Besides which you'll see him at work.

I'm now determined not to talk to motorists known or unknown in the future as it just gives them a chance to lecture me on why they decided to drive dangerously (they don't admit to driving dangerously of course) which is so irritating.

"You did this or that on the road so I'm now going to drive my ton of metal deliberately and really closely/dangerously/fast/turn left,right past you as punishment but if you talk to me about it it will be all your fault for being in my way in the first place which gives me the right to intimidate you with my big heavy fast car........."!

 

[Sh4rkyBloke]

Sorry for stating the bleeding obvious... but if you don't mention it there's no way his/her driving will change as they probably either think what they did was fine or (worse) didn't even register the cyclist as being there!!!

Be polite but firm, ask how they'd feel if they were cut up/passed so close in their car.. and then point out how little protection there is on a bike.

 

[Angelfishsolo]

I agree. The person in question might have been oblivious to the fact that their driving was dangerous (no excuse but still very likely a possibility). That said you need to weigh up the likely reaction of the person. If he / she is likely to turn into a psycho then discretion might be the better part of valour.

Sorry for stating the bleeding obvious... but if you don't mention it there's no way his/her driving will change as they probably either think what they did was fine or (worse) didn't even register the cyclist as being there!!!

Be polite but firm, ask how they'd feel if they were cut up/passed so close in their car.. and then point out how little protection there is on a bike.

 

[domtyler]

Apply the principles of restorative justice and you are likely to achieve both the victim (your friend) feeling better as he has got it off his chest, and make it most likely that the perpetrator will change his future behaviour as he will begin to empathise with cyclists more. Take the statement of this former burglar who changed his behaviour after being made to talk to his victims.

For Peter Woolf, a man with more than 40 convictions and 18 years spent in prison, said meeting victims of crime had helped change his life.

"It was the thing that turned me around," he said

"It was part of the process, it was the thing that opened the door for me - once I'd sat and listened, and spoke, and engaged in conversation with the victims of crime and realised how they were feeling and what damage I'd done, I knew things could never be the same again."

"Coming face to face with victims of crime - in my case two victims of burglaries I'd committed and suddenly feeling experienced in the pain and harm I'd caused ... it was more than just profit, it was about how these people felt, about the actual feelings I'd left them with," he said.

 

[John the Monkey]

Get all other colleagues together and stand and point in a "day of the triffids way"

Invasion of the Body Snatchers (with Donald Sutherland) surely?

 

[fossyant]

Have a word - I did with a colleague that was driving/racing another car into work one day - I was driving in as well - gave him a bit of a telling off with a few 'F' words here and there (also helped that I was much more senior to him).

 

[tdr1nka]

This happened to me a couple of years ago with a colleague (an escort as well)

*Thinks*
Linf has worked as an escort?
The sly old thing

 

[PBancroft]

Speak with HR first and foremost. Your company will probably have some kind of a policy regarding negative interactions between colleagues.

 

[tdr1nka]

I was wondering how that would work if the event happens outside of work, unless it is a company vehicle?

 

[CotterPin]

Barge past them in the corridor and when they ask why you did it, tell them that's what they did in the car the other day.

That's what I would like to do but in reality I'd probably do nothing as I am another of the meek and mild persuasion.

 

[sheddy]

Leave a (polite) note on the windscreen ?