It's an addiction. If a smoker were trying to tell me to give up without making or having made any attempt himself, and who said that he enjoyed it and didn't regret it,
and he was my primary source of information about it, I wouldn't listen to him.
Some people are happy to have double standards. On that we'll just have to agree to disagree. I, personally, would find that incredibly difficult. I understand Greg's point of view regarding rugby entirely. I feel the same way about ski-ing. If I had it to do all over again and could avoid the worst of my ski-ing accidents then of course I would ski. If I were told that the fall that wrecked my lower back and shoulders and ended my Olympic archery career before it got properly started was inevitable, I would not go ski-ing.
I wouldn't, however, tell anyone not to ski based on my experience. Because my experience isn't that of anyone else. Permanent disability/injury is not inevitable (my parents still ski). And, at the end of the day, you could get run over by a bus tomorrow. I don't regret my short-lived ski-racing experience, but I'd have preferred to carry on with the archery. I was better at it. Also I've been in pain for a very long time as a result.
Greg said:
It was a strong theme in your A vs B argument earlier.
I was taking my context from the post title. "Don't do as I do" denotes the present tense and thus suggests that A is carrying on doing something that he is refusing to allow B to do. "Don't do as I did" is a different kettle of fish entirely.
At 23 and 24 I would think that your children are young adults who have a brain and presence aforethought and should therefore be capable of making their own risk assessments given good quality data. But you're the parent, not I, and it's your decision to make. We are, ultimately, talking about feelings. Feelings are generally neither right nor wrong: they just are. How we act upon those feelings is determined by our own moral compasses, and I wouldn't dream of telling you how to interact with your family.
I was raised in a family that is not in any way risk-averse. I think it's just a different way of seeing the world. I have always been encouraged to be independent and make up my own mind but also to make sure I had enough of the right information to come to a reasonable decision.
Sam