I'd say he stands to lose just as much. The real loser will be the parent, if it was got by underhand methods.
Yes i know what you mean.I'm divided between taking taking the monster on and maybe losing, or just living in hope that the monster will meet his match one day and come a cropper.
They usually have a lawyer that does a surgery there once or twice a week. Get in there, and tell him your concerns, particularly about him getting her to sign over her life savings with no consultation with the rest of the family, when she was already ill. Hope he has some answers for you . Write down the important bits you want to talk to him about as you may only get a 15 min slot so you need to ask the important questions first. Take a pen and paper to write down what he says. Sounds obvious I know but you'd be surprised how many people waste their 15 min. You don't very often get lawyers advice for free!!I didn't see a lawyer,i sent them an e mail and i got that jargon reply back. I think i'll make an appointment to see someone from the CAB The reason i sent an e mail was because their phone lines are so busy, that's why i mailed them. E mails and letters are ok but i'm going to have to ask someone face to face how i stand on this matter and is it worth taking it further.
Or even record it...They usually have a lawyer that does a surgery there once or twice a week. Get in there, and tell him your concerns, particularly about him getting her to sign over her life savings with no consultation with the rest of the family, when she was already ill. Hope he has some answers for you . Write down the important bits you want to talk to him about as you may only get a 15 min slot so you need to ask the important questions first. Take a pen and paper to write down what he says. Sounds obvious I know but you'd be surprised how many people waste their 15 min. You don't very often get lawyers advice for free!!
My fear is that my brother knew what you are saying when he declared himself POA.The CAB are amateurs, well-meaning, but next to useless in a situation such as this.
Reluctant as I am to put work the way of lawyers, they do have a cartel on this stuff, so it is with them that you have to deal.
A lot of solicitors - even the good ones - offer free 30 minute consultations which should give you an idea how this could be pursued.
But as you say, the bigger decision is if you have the heart, will and desire to pursue it at all.
@Accy cyclist from reading this thread, its clear to me at least that irrespective of what your brother does, you are not ready for some kind of reconciliation, your posts are full of blame/resentment, he stole my mother, her money, her life, he dosen't visit the grave, he only visits her occasionally, he is a monster and will come a cropper etc etc etc..although all of this might be true but unless you try to deal with your issues concerning your brother which clearly run deeper and longer than what you've posted here then nothing is going to change until at least you come to some acceptance of whats happened, if something illegally or untoward has taken place then by all means seek some recourse but before you take legal advice from a cycling forum you really need to sit and think if anything really has happened illegally or untoward because in these type of situations its not uncommon and I've seen it first hand that no matter how many people (or yourself) tell you that 2+2=4 , but because its your brother you only see or want to see 2+2=5.
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Ok........ If you are offended in anyway by my post, I appoligise that was not my intent, and hope you find some middle ground where you and your brother can have some sort of relationship, all the best and goodluck...
They usually have a lawyer that does a surgery there once or twice a week. Get in there, and tell him your concerns, particularly about him getting her to sign over her life savings with no consultation with the rest of the family, when she was already ill. Hope he has some answers for you . Write down the important bits you want to talk to him about as you may only get a 15 min slot so you need to ask the important questions first. Take a pen and paper to write down what he says. Sounds obvious I know but you'd be surprised how many people waste their 15 min. You don't very often get lawyers advice for free!!
I'm in a similar position to you, my mum and I haven't had contact with my sister for 25 years, since I was a teenager.I was completely estranged from my elder sister for many years, from my late teens until I was in my fifties. Not proud of it but it had to be done for my own well-being. The Aged P's ill-health, last year, meant we got back in touch. I am not sure it was a wise idea but sometimes you just have to do the right thing.
I concluded I'd feel worse, and she might behave worse, if the Aged P passed and she wasn't aware he was ill. An attempt to retain the moral high ground if you will, and when I regret having done so, as a result of our interactions, I comfort myself with the knowledge that I've done the right thing even if she doesn't seem capable of doing so.I'm in a similar position to you, my mum and I haven't had contact with my sister for 25 years, since I was a teenager.
Sometimes I think I should make contact and build bridges, then I remember why the bridges were burnt in the first place and think why bother putting myself through the heartbreak?
I can see your point but it is not necessarily true - if you suffer from depression you can be your own worst enemy, but if you are lucky then family members can be a great support.
But a lot more common than people realise.There are some mighty sad stories in this thread.
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