can't you see that that very statement is strongly suggesting the the victim is in part responsible? You keep saying 'let's learn from this'.. but i say fark that... lets not fall into a rut of mistrust with our nearest and dearest, just because some bunch of ***** decided to betray and exploit the people they're no longer in a relationship with. Instead, lets hand down 18 year jail sentences to those that do exploit and betray their former lovers,at least as a word of warning that 'this kind of thing' is unacceptable in modern society.... there's nothing wrong with couples taking nuddy photos of each other to enjoy at a later date, there's nothing wrong with having a bit of fun under the sheets and keeping a memento....which is why i find this notion of "ah but love... if you hadn't had that bit of fun" so mind bogglingly inane. If only they'd become nuns!
It is about risk assessment ..
You have to realise that there is a risk, you have to realise that many couples will split and that it will often be acrimonious. You assess that risk and then proceed how you wish.
People will often do and say things that they would not otherwise do, and it can involve nude pictures.
We had a local case where the wife was having an affair. Husband became suspicious and found compromising explicit photos of her and boyfriend on her phone. `he sent them to everyone on her contact list and some of the less explicit on her Facebook
Was that a breach of trust and a betrayal of their relationship?
Probably, but he honestly thought that it was an acceptable way of showing her betrayal by having an affair and therefore not unreasonable to inform everyone in a way that could not be challenged
Is this the same as putting it on a web site for revenge?
Equally there is the issue of the privacy of those whose images have been hacked or stolen and then published
The matter deserves a wider discussion than revenge sites...... surely any site that publishes images without the consent of those in the images is equally questionable?
There is also the "reasonable expectation of privacy" that covers images taken in public.
I can take your image if you are "in shot" of something else, and that is legal, however I also have a responsibility to use that image reasonably, and not use it in a way that you would find objectionable.
The rules and laws are there - we should use them