Help with funeral suit misery

[gbb]

Personally, having just arranged my wife's funeral, I made it clear that people (who asked) could wear what they wished but preferably respectable and toned down.
A grey suit is fine IMHO, I even wore a very very dark blue suit for my wife's.
There was quite a range of dress at hers from black to dark to grey suits, ladies generally wore dark, it was fairly relaxed in expectation.
Again, personally I never liked the idea people HAD to go out and spend their hard earned on a suit. Respectable is fine for me.

 

[gbb]

in Salisbury we have a Turkish tailor, who would alter the suit in a week, that’s what I would do.

Yep, my new suit (off the peg) was a tad too long in the leg, I think £15 at a local tailors and it was done while I went and did some shopping

 

[Profpointy]

Either of the top two, and for me the top top one looks the better fit. If there's time you can likely get it altered to fit perfectly. My local taylor happily did this with a poorly fitting suit I'd bought elsewhere, and with one of my late father's jackets.

As you know traditional funeral attire is black or dark grey suit, white shirt black long tie and shoes, unless the family have specifically indicated "bright colours", "club kit", or whatever. I'd not choose to wear the more jack-the-lad suits pictured.

For all that, as a general thing not everyone has a black suit, or a suit at all, so what really matters is turning up to pay your respects dressed as tidily as you are able.

 

[winjim]

I echo what other people have said, really. Whichever of the top two you're most comfortable in. Nobody's assessing the cut of your suit at a funeral and I doubt you'll be the only person there who's dragged an old outfit out from the back of the wardrobe.

Also, depending on the vibes it's an ice breaker at the wake. Stuck for conversation? Roll your eyes and talk about having to wear your old suit, everybody can identify with that so it's useful small talk.

 

[SteveH80]

Don't overthink it. It's not a fashion parade, your attendance and respect is what counts.

 

[Dogtrousers]

My wife went to her aunt's funeral. There she met her cousin (the aunt's daughter) who was wearing a red sparkly top. "Well, I don't get much chance to dress up these days".

 

[DCLane]

My father-in-law's funeral was held with the request to not have dark clothes.

It was an Irish funeral with an open coffin before-hand; he had requested to be dressed in a white suit, with white shirt, which we obliged and the undertaker did well.

So don't worry about what you're wearing.

 

[mistyoptic]

This is the tie I wear to funerals. Plain black tie / black plane tie , it’s almost the same thing. Started at the funeral of a good friend I used to go to air shows with and I’ve continued with it ever since

 

[presta]

Had I done the Lyke Wake Walk as planned, I'd intended to use the LWWA tie for funerals: