How many times have you been Divorced. ?
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I know a couple of couples who married because somebody in the relationship got a job abroad that they wanted and marrying was the way to make being together in a not-long-distance relationship/continuing to live as a family feasible. Why is 'I want to risk leaving everything and everyone I know behind and get hitched so that we can continue to live together somewhere half a world away while you take up this incredible opportunity' unromantic? Or 'marriage isn't a big deal either way to me but I know and accept that it is important to you and am therefore perfectly happy to do it because I love you and your well-being and happiness matter and I love you and respect your opinion, even if I don't particularly share it'?Awww; you soppy old romantic, you!
I think the popular conception of 'romance', with its anatomically incorrect hearts, genetically distorted roses and overpriced hallmark moments, is a pile of (mildly passive-aggressive) socially compliant hollywood-nourished rose-tinted wombat doo-doos.
I think it is a lovely thing to buy a bunch of flowers for someone who likes flowers. Or to take a cup of tea in bed to someone who likes cups of tea in bed - or to never ever take breakfast in bed to someone who hates crumbs in the sheets. Relationships, as far as I'm concerned, work with mutual trust and respect, fairness, honest communication - that kind of stuff.
Accy cyclist
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Some men just can't do without a nagging women! They divorce them to go back to their free and single days,then after a few months they go out looking to find someone who'll give them the same grief!
summerdays
Cycling in the sun
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- Bristol
[QUOTE 3767760, member: 10119"]I think the popular conception of 'romance', with its anatomically incorrect hearts, genetically distorted roses and overpriced hallmark moments, is a pile of (mildly passive-aggressive) socially compliant hollywood-nourished rose-tinted wombat doo-doos.
I think it is a lovely thing to buy a bunch of flowers for someone who likes flowers. Or to take a cup of tea in bed to someone who likes cups of tea in bed - or to never ever take breakfast in bed to someone who hates crumbs in the sheets. Relationships, as far as I'm concerned, work with mutual trust and respect, fairness, honest communication - that kind of stuff.[/QUOTE]
Mr Summerdays hates things like Valentine's Day for being commercial but he occasionally surprises me at other times of the year. And if I'm not working he'll ring me coffee in bed which I love, but I'll ask before I do the same as he doesn't alway and he hates crumbs in the bed. So you've summed up our relationship there pretty accurately.
If he does buy me flowers they often have a reduced sticker on which makes me laugh. It can be really small gestures that I appreciate that show just as much that he was thinking about me rather than grand ones done without the true relationship behind them.
I think it is a lovely thing to buy a bunch of flowers for someone who likes flowers. Or to take a cup of tea in bed to someone who likes cups of tea in bed - or to never ever take breakfast in bed to someone who hates crumbs in the sheets. Relationships, as far as I'm concerned, work with mutual trust and respect, fairness, honest communication - that kind of stuff.[/QUOTE]
Mr Summerdays hates things like Valentine's Day for being commercial but he occasionally surprises me at other times of the year. And if I'm not working he'll ring me coffee in bed which I love, but I'll ask before I do the same as he doesn't alway and he hates crumbs in the bed. So you've summed up our relationship there pretty accurately.
If he does buy me flowers they often have a reduced sticker on which makes me laugh. It can be really small gestures that I appreciate that show just as much that he was thinking about me rather than grand ones done without the true relationship behind them.
Rustybucket
Veteran
- Location
- South Coast
0 - we had been together for 15 years before we got married, so did all the beta testing before taking the plunge!
raleighnut
Legendary Member
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Never been married, had 3 long term relationships (and quite a few short-term ones 
) before I met Maz but now we've been together for 19 years. 
) before I met Maz but now we've been together for 19 years. 
hopless500
Trundling along
- Location
- not-as-flat-as-you-think Norfolk
1 divorce and a 20 yr relationship going down the spout. Wouldn't get married again.
[QUOTE 3767760, member: 10119"]I know a couple of couples who married because somebody in the relationship got a job abroad that they wanted and marrying was the way to make being together in a not-long-distance relationship/continuing to live as a family feasible. Why is 'I want to risk leaving everything and everyone I know behind and get hitched so that we can continue to live together somewhere half a world away while you take up this incredible opportunity' unromantic? Or 'marriage isn't a big deal either way to me but I know and accept that it is important to you and am therefore perfectly happy to do it because I love you and your well-being and happiness matter and I love you and respect your opinion, even if I don't particularly share it'?
I think the popular conception of 'romance', with its anatomically incorrect hearts, genetically distorted roses and overpriced hallmark moments, is a pile of (mildly passive-aggressive) socially compliant hollywood-nourished rose-tinted wombat doo-doos.
I think it is a lovely thing to buy a bunch of flowers for someone who likes flowers. Or to take a cup of tea in bed to someone who likes cups of tea in bed - or to never ever take breakfast in bed to someone who hates crumbs in the sheets. Relationships, as far as I'm concerned, work with mutual trust and respect, fairness, honest communication - that kind of stuff.[/QUOTE]
Great post. Just my thoughts below.
Never bought into the term "relationship" which carries so meanings to so many people that it has become a public bus for folks to jump on or off at their convenience.
Romance on the other hand is a clear, distinct , mutual and amazingly has no legal basis or interpretation and does not involve the state. Only you and the person that you are involved with would know the meaning of romance. It also need not be commercialised the "the hallmark" way. And yes, trust of all things.
And it is unfortunate that the Hollywood movies of this genre is such a drawcard for those who want one, had one and never had one.
I think the popular conception of 'romance', with its anatomically incorrect hearts, genetically distorted roses and overpriced hallmark moments, is a pile of (mildly passive-aggressive) socially compliant hollywood-nourished rose-tinted wombat doo-doos.
I think it is a lovely thing to buy a bunch of flowers for someone who likes flowers. Or to take a cup of tea in bed to someone who likes cups of tea in bed - or to never ever take breakfast in bed to someone who hates crumbs in the sheets. Relationships, as far as I'm concerned, work with mutual trust and respect, fairness, honest communication - that kind of stuff.[/QUOTE]
Great post. Just my thoughts below.
Never bought into the term "relationship" which carries so meanings to so many people that it has become a public bus for folks to jump on or off at their convenience.
Romance on the other hand is a clear, distinct , mutual and amazingly has no legal basis or interpretation and does not involve the state. Only you and the person that you are involved with would know the meaning of romance. It also need not be commercialised the "the hallmark" way. And yes, trust of all things.
And it is unfortunate that the Hollywood movies of this genre is such a drawcard for those who want one, had one and never had one.
Married Mrs "D" in 1968...........I was 21 & she was sweet 18 
...........so 47 years this year...
I dont believe in this "never had a cross word" crap as we had plenty over the years (mostly my fault I confess). Battled through the few bad times and are still happily married.
...........so 47 years this year...I dont believe in this "never had a cross word" crap as we had plenty over the years (mostly my fault I confess). Battled through the few bad times and are still happily married.
twentysix by twentyfive
Clinging on tightly
- Location
- Over the Hill
Only one Mrs 26. 34 years now. Lots of great times and some not so. Wouldn't change it for anything
Sara_H
Guru
More than 50% of marriages now end in divorce.
I have one divorce under my belt. I always said I'd never marry again but given that me and the OH both have children I think we will marry eventually and have water tight wills in place to protect the assets for the surviving partner when one of us pops off.
I've heard some terrible stories of surviving children turfing the step parent out of the house or running off with all the money!
I have one divorce under my belt. I always said I'd never marry again but given that me and the OH both have children I think we will marry eventually and have water tight wills in place to protect the assets for the surviving partner when one of us pops off.
I've heard some terrible stories of surviving children turfing the step parent out of the house or running off with all the money!
Same here.
Mrs Stephec is happy for me to buy the reduced ones when she sees how much they would've been at full price.
